i am 14 years old, i am yelled at constantly, told i will never amount to anything, completely ignored when i accomplish something, and my dad is making me get a job. this started when my mom died in august of '05, and its nonstop, constant, degrading, i dont remember a night since then that i havent cried myself to sleep, my brother also never talks to me unless he is yelling at me.... is this emotional abuse or am i just being overly sensitive?
2007-01-19 13:32:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not a professional, but I'd say it is a form of abuse. See your school guidance councilor if you can, because I have a feeling that your dad wouldn't send you a better family councilor.
2007-01-19 13:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I'm sure your dad is hurting and that's why he's yelling, but it still sounds like a bad situation to me. Can you talk w/ your counselor at school about it?
My dad used to tell me I was worthless, too. I'd never amount to anything. He wished I'd never been born. I spent the first 15 years of my adult life trying to show him I was a somebody. You know what? It didn't matter one lick to him. You know what else? I finally realized that his opinion had NOTHING to do with who I am as a person. It's his problem, not mine.
Go on and do the best you can in life - but do it for YOU!
Can you get hooked up with Big Brothers/big Sisters? It would be nice for you to have another person you can develop a relationship with that will help you out. Someone that will just be there for you.
Good luck and hugs.
2007-01-19 21:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by S. W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the scape goat for your dad and brother but it would be best if you all could go to couseling. If they do not agree ,then maybe at least you could go for your self just for the advice. You are the only female now and that has to be hard to deal with now. You should ask a counsler to help you find a mentor that you can trust to help you. It is good for you to have someone to turn to so you don't feel alone. Ask your family what they think and then go from there . Men are not as willing to go seek advice as women so it may not work but at least you may be able to get help for yourself...best wishes
2007-01-22 23:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you are being emotionally abuse by both of them. Your father is taking his anger out on you due to dealing with the lost of your mother. If you look like your mother and you are a constant reminder of her. He is also angry with her for leaving the family. It was just her time to be with the Lord. I think you should try to talk to him and if that does not work then you should go to your guidance counselor at the school. The family need to attend therapy in order to start the healing process. It is not easy when we lose a loved one suddenly.
2007-01-19 22:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about the loss of yr mom and also to hear this .... I call it emotional abuse, went thru it myself when young. But it could be because your dad is "helpless" and lost without mom, so don't know how to manage his teenage kids. Get professional help, see a good counsellor. for myself, am AOK and very well adjusted, normal or even better than most now, even without seeing any counsellor (unaffordable) then.
2007-01-19 22:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your overly sensitive.. i think the thing is when you lose someone you love you feel like you've lost everything and as for the yelling it's them confused, sad and trying to get over the loss.. it's their way of grieving although i agree that it's not right and they should seek someone to confide in because thats unhealthy. i also think as a family you guys should confide in one another more than anything and help eachother when times get rough. you guys need eachother more than you know.
2007-01-19 21:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey i do think you are being emotional abuse... The stress was put on your dad. He does not know how to handle life now. You should talk to a school consulor. Do something before it results in to any other kinds of abuse. i am sorry about what happened to your mom. please go get help.
2007-01-19 21:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is transferring all of his problems onto you-yes, very emotionally abusive. Get help to learn how to deal with him and stand up for yourself so that he and your brother treat you with the respect you deserve! Good luck :(
2007-01-19 21:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a teenager
all teenagers think they are being abused, the enviorment might be hostile and you could probobly get child service to take you away, but bob wouldnt classify you as being emotionally abused
2007-01-19 21:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your dad just doesn't know how 2 talk 2 u right know so he yells
2007-01-19 21:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by lady_drama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋