I have been saving myself for the perfect women all my live, by choice and when my girlfriend told me about how she had had sex at a camp ground back when she was 14, i freaked out and i'm lost and not sure what to do. Help Me!!
2007-01-19 13:30:46 · 22 answers · asked by big1_69_77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should forgive her even when you are sticking ur penis into her virgina knowing that someone eles has done it fell bad take it out on her virgina!!!!
2007-01-19 13:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it she did this before you was together so how can you get mad now if she did the whole dam football team then hell yea get the hell out of there but your values are good but you will never find a girl if you question there past sex lives not to many virgins older than 13 out there i i am thinking you did not save your self by choice i just don't think you could have gotten any or you was just scared to get some but anyway forget about what has happened in the past i figured i insult you a little sorry
2007-01-19 21:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by dmck105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her for what, having a life before she met you. Come on, wanting to save yourself for someone special is all good and well, but not everyone feels the same way as that. You need to decide wether or not you will be able to get over this, surely if you love her, and she is what you want, what does it matter if she has had sex before. You can either be with the women you love or a virgin you care nothing for, take your choice.
2007-01-19 21:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by mumofthree81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her for what? Just because you made a commitment to yourself to save yourself for the perfect woman doesn't mean that everyone should do the same thing. This happened before she met you or knew you had interest in her? Not everyone is going to think like you do and obviously this girl is not your perfect woman. Oh by the way, don't hold your breath waiting around for the perfect woman.
2007-01-19 21:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your head out of fantasy land bud! If what she did happened before she met you or was with you, then what is your problem. You are being judgmental and have a superiority complex to think that just because you have been brainwashed into believing that your sexuality is sacred that everyone else has to also!
You are freaking out and coming down on and making her feel bad because of your screwed up complexes. If you care for her - judging by your reaction you don't really care about her - you would accept her for who she is. Otherwise, stop torturing this poor girl.
2007-01-19 21:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Marc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't together when she did it, then forgive her. She was young and made a personal choice that had nothing to do with you if you didn't know her at the time. It doesn't mean that she can't still share that special moment with you also. That's just my personal thoughts on it though. Good luck!
2007-01-19 21:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe she is not the best girl for you, if she had had sex that time ago, and you feel she is being honest with you and she really wants you, well i think you should tell her you are sorry about it and made it a big deal, but if you see she doesn't care, or if she had a lot sex trough this years, maybe she is not very adequate for you, all depends of what, you think... do you think she is the girl you were expecting all this time?
2007-01-19 21:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend should never have told you about what she did. If you don't feel good about the relationship then maybe you should stop seeing each other. If she has had sex already with one guy then it can happen again with other guys.
2007-01-19 21:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she brag about it, or consider it as a mistake?
If she acts proud of it, you need to let her go. You deserve better. You've saved yourself, and you need a girl with the same values.
If she's not happy about it, keep her. You might want to talk to her about repurifying herself.
It all comes down to how you feel about her.
I hope I helped!
2007-01-19 21:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by kelseylovescody11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then look for another
but good luck in finding a virgin
your better off playing the lotto
and unless you stick to religious girls from religious families
pretty much all girls lose their virginity at 14 now a days
2007-01-19 21:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. At 14 she already had sex, she can be doing all this times behind you.
2007-01-19 21:38:10 · answer #11 · answered by jas123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋