I am getting married and i want my step dad to walk me how do i break it to my real father?

Answer 1

You could do what my stepsister did. Her biological father walked her down to about the midpoint of the aisle and then my father took her to her husband at the alter. That way she could still hold her bouquet herself and both of them could participate. She was closer to my dad which is why he walked her to her hubby. If her father was upset, it wasn't showing that night.

Answer 2

I always wondered this, as I'll be in the same situation. I'm assuming your real dad's invited. Maybe you can split up the escorting and father daughter dance (stepdad walks, dad dances), or have 2 father daughter dances and have your stepdad walk you. Maybe you can give your real dad another important role in the wedding (make one up if you have to). I'm flagging this to see what you decide.

Everyone's situation is different--maybe your stepdad raised you and your real dad didn't have much to do with you; in that case, I don't think any explanation is necessary. But if they're both decent guys and both helped raise you, I'd find a way to have your real dad involved in some other way.

Or maybe whoever helps pay, walks you.

Answer 3

My girlfriend had this dilemma. Her stepdad had raised her since she was 4, but her biological father had pretty much stayed on the scene over the years. She decided to have her real Dad walk her down half way and her Step-Dad walk her up to the aisle. It may sound lame, but everyone was happy. Hope this is of some help to you, but remember, it's you and your fiancee's special day- you have to do what makes you the happiest.

Answer 4

I'm almost in the exact same situation, but I rather have one of my brothers walk me down the aisle instead of my father or stepdad. My father hasn't raised me since I was 10, and my stepdad and I don't get along that much. Have you thought of someone else to walk you down the aisle...a mom or brother? If you're set on your step dad escorting you, my advice is to just tell your real father...it's your day so he should understand and respect your decision! Good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

You didn't say how close a relationship you have with your real father. I think you should sit down with him and discuss it. Explain to him why you want your step dad to walk you down the aisle. Have you considered having both walk you?

Answer 6

At my wedding I had both my Father and Step-Father walk me down the aisle... Nothing wrong in that. Also at the reception I had a Father Daughter dance with both of them... Of course my Father was given the first dance :).

Answer 7

If your real father is not in attendance at the wedding, then I understand. If both men are attending the wedding, there is no way in the world that you can tell him that he cannot walk his own daughter down the aisle. No words could let him down gently enough to understand.

I am a father myself, it would kill me.

It is your wedding, but this tradition is sacred. Keep it sacred and keep your father in your life, and wedding.

Answer 8

My SIL got married last year and both her step and bio dad walked her down the aisle. She is much closer to her step dad, and her bio dad understood. I cried when she walked out with both of them!

Answer 9

They both can walk you down the aisle or your stepdad can walk you half of the way, and your real dad can walk you the rest of the way. That way everybody's happy.

Answer 10

which one has been more of a Dad to you? anyone can "father" a child but a special man makes a Dad. or as the other person stated have both