I asker her out a few days ago, but so did my brother! He knew I liked her first and more and he left his old girlfriend for nothing, and when I asked her, she said she'll think about it. But today, I found out from a note she gave to my friend she was going to say no to the both of us, but I feel really bad without her and all of my friends said I should try again. What should I do?
2007-01-19 13:07:23 · 11 answers · asked by p_garcia7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a brother that pulled the same crap on me. That was a long time ago and I still haven't stopped being pissed.
She might know that there is a problem between both of you and you brother asking her out. She may not want to cause any more problems so just decided to say no to both of you.
Just chill for a couple weeks-don't talk to the girl other than just say Hi.
After a while just talk to her for short time and test the water. See if she is friendly or seems interested. Then make up you mind if you are going to ask her out again.
Don't tell your friends your plan-Don't tell your brother, just keep it to yourself .(believe this) or someone Will dime you out and she will know ahead of time . You don't want that. You don't want her thinking you can't live without her.
Girls like to play games with guy's so don't play games with her. If she says no---Walk---there are more fish in the sea. Don't play games with girls it isn't worth the hurt. Your girl IS out there, and you'll know it when it happens, and it will.
There is one more thing. You can't make a girl "Like" you. Don't even try. If she wants to go out with you she will if she doesn't she won"t. Try once more then head for happier hunting grounds.
2007-01-19 13:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dumb Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still like her, so don't give up....just wait a little while for her to forget this coincidence. Act normal, friendly to her but not to talkative. If you hang back a little, she will have a few days to think about you, as welll.
You might even send her a note in a few days to say hi, but then follow up with a face to face meeting. If she still says no, don't get panicky, it may take her longer to feel the same way about you. Don't spend all of your time thinking about her, though. You may too get distracted by her and miss someone else who is looking at you!
Be cool, be mature.
2007-01-19 21:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur bro is bein denied 2 then u shuld take ya friends advice. this time face 2 face. and maybe practice a little conversation 2nite 2 talk 2 her before u ask again. and also b4 u ask again, if ur old enough or in da same naberhood, go out and eat 2gethor if ya aint a sloppy eater. if ya r, then get that 2gethor. ask sum questions, but not ones that r obvious that u still like her. ask those win ur deep in the talk. make sure it is just u and nun of ur friends.
2007-01-19 21:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by big boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh lord, do not ask her out again! You already have the answer, why put yourself through the pain of actually hearing it? If she's interested, let her come to you. If you were friends before, then keep the friendship, but for heavens sake, don't be a glutton for punishment and nose dive into an uncomfortable situation twice!
2007-01-19 21:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Zen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she actually is a bit interested if she said "She'd think about it." I wouild approach her with something like...
"I would really like to take you out. Unfortunately, my brother complicated things by asking you out as well and now I understand you will turn us both down. I think turning my brother down is a great idea! I think going out with me is an even better idea."
Put some humour into this uncomfortable situation fast and you still may have a chance.
2007-01-19 21:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Alohalani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a guy that did that 2 me............. in fact hes still doing tht like callin me nad stuff! i said no and he asked again mayb 2 times a girl can take but after that it gets annoyin srry! but this guy never talked 2 me or anythin mayb b friends first then go out if u r already that then srry at least she said no 2 ur brother 2! â¥â¥â¥â¥ best of luck!
2007-01-19 21:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by total_coolness102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you do is say ok i have somethig to say i like you but im not sure you like me so i am just gonna have to give you some time to think and i would love to take you to dinner so i can know you better inside than out ok so bye seeya at 8:00 or whutever kool try it man im in the kind of same situation to so dont feel alone.
2007-01-19 21:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be that guy. She's not going to like you more because you asked her out again; it'll make her think less of you. Here's something to remember in regards to women:
It makes absolutely NO differance how much YOU like her. All that matter is how much SHE likes you.
2007-01-19 21:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by UNITool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until she comes to you, one on one seems to be the best in my opinion. if you don't hear from her in a day or two, call her up. if any thing go have a cup of coffee somewhere and get to know each other. what about your brother, will there be hard feelings, talk to him too.
2007-01-19 21:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by lolly125107 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people aren't even smart enough to ask them out in the first place. If they say no, you've done more than most people.
2007-01-19 21:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by wowwee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋