My parents are stopping me from having any life at all. I don't see my friends outside of school except for twice. It used to be because my mom didn't know the parents, but now it's because our house is really dirty and she doesn't have time to take me to their house. All i do is watch tv, listen to music after school. And the worst part is that she doesn't think it's a big problem. She says that other teenagers don't really do much either. I wanted to join a team sport but she says, that again she doesn't have time. Suggestions?
2007-01-19 13:05:44 · 16 answers · asked by omygosh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do clean. But my mom and I are the only ones making an effort. Four people live in my house.
2007-01-19 13:29:36 · update #1
It's like being grounded for life, and I can't believe it but I'm actually starting to dread weekends. Everyone gets on each other's nerves, and the most we ever do is eat out and go shopping, and go on a short bike ride. once in awhile I convince them to go rock-climbing or something, but that's only twice a year.
2007-01-23 11:26:13 · update #2
I understand what you're going through. I was a kid once! My parents were harsh and very strict, never allowed me to do anything. I don't know your mom on a personal level so I can't really tell you if your mom has your best interest at heart. I would definitely sit down and talk with your mom. Let her know that you really need to socialize with other people and how important that is for you. I would be honest with her. If that doesn't work or if you're scared to do that, I would think of some other things you can do to keep busy such as writing letters/poetry/stories or coming up with other hobbies such as writing music or something. Studying and doing homework is always a positive thing to do when you're bored. It never hurts.
Things will work out, don't worry. Your mom just loves you and is possibly trying to protect you from not going anywhere. As a mother, she probably feels more content and safe knowing where you are, which is under her wing constantly.
2007-01-19 13:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by journeythroughlife85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O-k, Well all you can do is sit down with your mom and be polite and ask her honestly what it is that she thought her childhood was like.Ask her how would she feel being your age and not having much of a life.
Tell her that you just like her will only have one chance at being young and without the responsibilities that she has now.Tell her that you want to be able to have good memories of your past and childhood but you cant have that sitting on the couch.Just be calm and sincere.If she has a soft spot in her heart at all she will find an alternative way to meet some of your needs.
Also talk to a coach or a guidance counselor and see if their may be alternatives to transportation to and from sports that you can sign up for.I am sure there are some parents that are very involved with the sports that would be willing to drop you off at home after practice and games.It don't hurt to ask.
2007-01-19 13:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, exactly is your mother doing all day? Does she have some high-powered job? Try telling some others about your plight and see if you can get some help. Maybe you can join a team of some sport and if a teammate lives near you, you can ride with them to and from practice. Or maybe a softhearted teacher or coach will help you out. Ask around. And remind your mother that you do not want to go out and do drugs and get in trouble, that you're trying to do normal American healthy things. Maybe once she sees you are serious, she will be more supportive. And how about your dad? Do you have any other relatives in the area that could drive you to and from practice, or friends' houses? Do you have a local bus system in your town?
If you have a guidance counselor at school, maybe they can help.
2007-01-19 13:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to have a conversation and give her some good reasons that she might agree on to let u join the sports team or tell her that u r going to a friends house to study every day after school and then the tricky part is that u go to practice and she never realizes a thing but have her call ur cell phone instead of ur friends house in order she figures out and for games of the sport say u also r going to a friends house and if u have a bf then say ur going on a date with him and have him take u to ur game unless u like the first one better that just reason with her and have a conversation.
2007-01-19 13:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sara R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can arrange something with friends where you will get a ride from the friend. Or, talk to your mom and ask her what work needs to be done around the house so that you can have a friend over. If you do the cleaning then she wont have much of an excuse.
2007-01-19 13:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by lady_daizee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should take a lil of her load and clean the house, you live there too, and if she sees that you are attempting to help and show maturity by helping out around the house, she will allow you some freedom and let a few friends come over on occassion, but you cant just clean that one time and expect it or just do it cuz you want something...help clean to take pride in your family ad your home and earn your mom's respect...that right there is the key, however i do agree with you as your parents should take a more active role in your life and growth but maybe through your initiative of not attempting to be a silverspoon kid will get them more involved. my sister went through the same thing you are going through, but once she started picking up some of the weight around the house and helping my mom, things miraculously changed for her, my parents trusted her and opened up more opportunities for her.
2007-01-19 13:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by camrondew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to assist your Mother in keeping your house in order. If your Mother works, surprise her sometime by not watching TV or listening to Music until,
you have cleaned. the house.
Also learn how to assist her with preparing Dinner, or washing clothes, this could make a difference.
She will really appreciate this and perhaps give you more freedom.
Also, if the house is clean, she might allow you to invite your friends over for snacks.
Good luck.
2007-01-19 13:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Seeanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Jack the Ripper can help... parents all over this country are not exactly role models, especially when it comes to extra activities and adding cultural events in the child's life. That's why many children grow up pooped in the head. Ask your parents if you can take piano lessons or ballet and see what they say.
2007-01-19 13:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by ◄|| G ||► 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and explain to her that you just want to hang out with your friends more and that you might want to join a sport team and if she says that she can't take you, try to see if your friend mom or dad could come get you or carpool to a game. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-19 13:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sha-Sha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about one of your friend's join one of the sports so that yall can hang out more on the weekends' and after school...
2007-01-19 13:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by becca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋