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My husband,every Saturday night after his AA mtngs he goes out and comes home at 5am in the morning and this has been going on for quite some time.He's not poor.believe me.Im the one who get's stuck home with the kids.He doesn't ever take me no where.You figure it out.That is my Question.You figure why Im not happy.I know Why.Please humor me.

2007-01-19 12:43:58 · 15 answers · asked by atinanoskcirenosrebor 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Why would anyone call you a floozy. It sounds like your husband in seriously concentrating of dealing with alcoholism and what you need to do is put aside your resentments and let him do this. I can't imagine what your life was like when he was out drinking but it couldn't have been very nice for you or you children. You need to get in touch with Al anon and find out when you can attend a meeting. This will be a good place for you to talk about your feelings and how unhappy you are at this time.
There will be many others there who will talk to you and help you to cope with what you are going through. Your husband hasn't abandoned you he is just trying hard to remain sober and unless you are an alcoholic you can't understand how difficult this can be.
AA also has open meetings that you could attend with him, why not ask him if you could go. You need to get some counseling with him to work through this difficult time. I sense how angry you are and I truly feel for you but this anger won't solve anything. I hope you find some help and that you can work through these issues. Good luck to you.

2007-01-19 12:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0 0

Your not happy because you are allowing someone to take advantage of you and doing very little about it but sitting and complaining about it.
Look,having a bad marriage isn't any fun. I know, I have been there in your shoes.My ex used to go out all the time come home drunk and be out till morning and always said she was just with "friends".Well, I wish someone would have kicked my lame *** off the couch and made me look in the mirror and ask myself "what kind of moron,am I?"
Look, get up realize there isn't going to be a good end to this either way,so make it your ending and grab your husband by the ear and let him know the "fun" is over or you guys are over! Then expect it from him or go get a divorce and go find your happiness else were.And don't say your staying for the kids because the only thing you will be doing is staying to show them the wrong path and let them see you miserable and unhappy which they will, and therefore never get the best you can give them.
Its your life and those kids life you need to be concerned with.He obviously isn't having a problem being happy without you is he??

2007-01-19 20:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0 0

Why don't you go to the meetings with him and see for yourself that the "real" meeting is after the meeting. As long as he doesn't come home drunk or high, and is not cheating on you then support him. Tell him how this makes you feel and that he's neglecting your time with him, he should understand if he's real about his program.

2007-01-19 20:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0 0

Because he is either seeing someone and telling you he is going to AA meetings or he is going to AA meetings and celebrating his attendance with an all night bender.
He obviously has no respect for you or your children so I'd start thinking about pastures new......

2007-01-19 20:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Well honey, I am sure he's not drinking but he's out doing SOMETHING!! Wake up and smell the coffee....he may be blaming the home life on you/kids. Make coming home a happy place to be....

2007-01-19 20:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0 0

Maybe you should tell this to your husband and get a new understanding if your not happy at home you sure won't be on line either if you know what I mean. as you can see people are cruel.

2007-01-19 20:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0 0

I was exactly where you are now. That's why I'm divorced. It's no different when the roles are reversed. The pain is the same.

2007-01-19 20:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by D.Y. 2 · 0 0

if you are cheating on your husband, then you are a floozy, I don't care what the problem is. If it is so bad, get a divorce. Cheating is never right.

2007-01-19 20:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He don't never take you nowhere? If you talk like you type...well I wouldn't take you out anywhere either.

2007-01-19 20:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by behr28 5 · 0 0

If you are not happy. get out of the marriage. staying is only making it worse.

2007-01-19 20:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0 1

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