CA may be passing a "No Spanking" Law. Do you think this is a good idea and will it pass?

Question

CA is trying to pass a law that states that children under three years old may not be spanked. Violaters stand to face six months in jail.

I for one will be voting for this to pass. Small children don't have the mental capability for memory when it comes to right and wrong. I think it's sad that so many parents have stopped trying to teach children and they hit them to get their attention instead. This will force many people to PARENT their children. Bravo California!!!

THANK YOU so much for proving my point. Some of you can't distinguish repeatedly hitting a child (spanking) with a simply hit on the butt or hand. Completely different. You are more worried about your "rights" than your child's. You must feel really threatened by this law since you know no other way of communicating with your children. And just because you were spanked doesn't make it okay. This law could save so many childrens' lives from people like you who only know physical violence. I am proud to stand by children against their abusers and I suggest that you each take a parenting class to learn how to deal with your children. May God help you.

Answer 1

Under three should not be spanked, it shouldn't even be necessary at that age.

Answer 2

It will be a cold day in HELL before anyone tell me that I am braking the law by spanking my 3 year olds butt.

How can any mother put there child down by saying: "Small children don't have the mental capability for memory when it comes to right and wrong."??

I'm sorry but after I tell my 3 year old (even when he was 2) that he should not be doing what ever it is he was doing, he knows he shouldn't do it and normally dose not do it any more, and if he does I remind him and I spank his butt. He can remember the ABC's the 123's and what day his favorite shows come on. He can remember were his old school is, names and places we hardly even go to, so explain to me how it is that people thank a 3 year old can't remember right from wrong? My decision to spank my children is just that MY DECISION, and no government official has the right to take my parental rights away from me.

If this law ever comes to TEXAS or if there is anyway I could even go to CA. Then I would VOTE NO WAY!!

If more people spanked there children, (spanked not beat!) there wouldn't be so many bad *** children running around, they would have better manners, and they would have more respect for adults and other people. DISAPLINE IS PART OF PARENTING!! It is a part no parent likes but it is still a very important part.

Answer 3

This is the worst law i have ever heard, and i will be voting it down. This is where I live, and I will be moving should it pass. Sorry my children's best interest is more important then the California left wing extremist false opinion on how to raise children. I am not one who thinks parents just need to spank more, but along with spending more quality time, bringing a parent back into the household, yes I think spanking should make a comeback. I have spanked all of my children when they were under 3, ya right that's abusive, NOTTTTTTT!

It wont pass, for one, how do you prove it??? yep folks to charge someone with a crime you need something called evidence. Not just he said, she said. So unless your leaving bruises on your children (which is against the current law) there is no way to prove a crime has been committed. What's this lead us too, A LOT OF WAISTED TIME AND MONEY IN COURT FOR NO PURPOSE.

Answer 4

It's crazy. Society would be doomed. This is reversed. It is the parents that are responsible enough to do what it takes to teach their children that would be punished. Its tough on these parents that are strong enough to 'ride out the storm'. It would be much easier to take them to a babysitter and not have to deal w/the kids themselves. Some children don't respond to talking and reasoning at this age and become very challenging. They weren't nicknamed the '2 yr old angels' for a very good reason.

We need the opposite law - parents not properly 'parenting' should go to jail. There would be less problems with children as they age if proper discipline begins at the very start. Any responsible parent first tries to correct their child in an appropriate manner before using the spanking method, but sometimes its just not effective. Each child is unique. As far as their mental capability for memory regarding right and wrong - .....who's she kidding? My children amazed me with mind games when they were 2 and 3 yrs old. Mental capability was definitely there - it just needs to be pointed in the right direction.
This person must not have children????

Answer 5

I am sorry but some children need a good paddling on their rear ends! If you take a parents right to spank a child away from them, how are the parents suppose to discipline the child? According to you a child under 3 doesn't have the mental capability to understand right and wrong. What are the parents suppose to do, put their young child in a corner? Do you think that really works? No, it doesn't. When I was a child I got my butt spanked when I did something wrong and I didn't do it again. The problem with children these days is the lack of discipline. Don't you find it pretty sad that we have to have TV shows like "Super Nanny" and "Nanny 911" to come into our homes and teach us how to get young children to behave?

Answer 6

I have 5 sons and I live in Colorado. I have a firm belief in spanking. I hate to see parents trying to reason with children or plead for better behavior. I don't have time for that. If you say NO, you mean NO! If you say STOP, you mean STOP! Children are very smart and some child has fooled you into thinking they were "not capable" of understanding what you were saying. So in essence, you have been made the fool! What ever form of disipline I choose for my boys works. I get complimented when we are out because they know how to behave! Yes, that does include my 1 year old. Even other parents ask how do i get them to behave so good. I said " it started at home". I'll be danged, if my children are spoiled and undisciplined, to the point they are unable to deal with the reality and start shooting up school and stuff, because someone told them NO. i play with my kids, we have fun together, usually after a certain age you really don't need to spank. My 11 year old, fro instance never gets into that kind of trouble. He knows the limit. I don't beat them, but I do get hold of that tail when nesseccary. That bill won't pass and when your child is slapping you around for not giving in, your child and your dumb idea both need to go sit in the corner.

Answer 7

saying children under three don't have the mental capability to remember right and wrong makes you sound kinda ignorant. sorry. but my six month old baby knows not to pull my glasses off my face, knows i say "no" when she does it, and does it anyway and so i say no again and take them away. she understands whats going on, babies are human, they are born with brains, so use yours and start perceiving babies as people rather then a pet or something like that.

as for the government, the hell they should have any right to tell anyone how to raise their children! this law will not pass, cultural differences amongst other things of the many citizens of CA will not allow this to pass. i am a liberal, i don't intend to spank my child unless it is something in regards to life threatening, i have basically raised my 4 year old niece and while i have threatened to spank her i never have, but i would, if the situation called for it. Don't try to take my rights to be a parent away, the people who're doing the spanking are doing the parenting!

Answer 8

How about putting parent in jail that spoil their children. They are doing much more of a disservice to their kids and society then the people who give a potch to the kids backside.

I think it's a ridiculous law.

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And you proved the point that people can't distinguish between a spanking and abuse. May God have mercy on your soul for being so judgmental.

You do realize that the majority of this world is NOT abusive. The majority of people do NOT consider a potch abuse. Only those people who are so above themselves and think that they are the only ones who know best think that they have the right to tell people how to raise their kids. Some kids don't learn from a spanking and some only learn from a spanking. But it's up to each individual parent to choose the form of discipline that will work best, NOT YOU.

And I agree with the responder that said you obviously do not have children.

Answer 9

ok i have a degree in child development and have worked with small children(birth to 5years) for 15 years and i am also a mother of 2 kids. To say small children do not have the mental capability to know right from wrong is so incorrect!! by the time most children are close to 1 year old they start know this i have had children who are 10 months old who have hit me when mad i put them down and tell them no hitting i dont like it. it may happen again 2 or more times but then after they connect the fact that hitting means getting put down they stop the behavior it is human nature to strive for what is pleaserable so when children even small children have something they dont like happen to them they do what it takes to make sure that it does not happen again ,so if i like being carried i dont hit then they carry me and as they get older they understand this concept more and more. what they dont understand is this constant talking most parents do to try and reason with a 2 year old this does not mean you should not try to explain to them what they are doing is wrong but to many parents they do a lot of talking above their childs head with the idea one day they will get it and until then its just them being 2 or exploring...wrong! i feel spanking is the last resort when all else fales or when the situation is very serious when my daughter pulled from my hand in a parking lot at the mall i spanked her why because i wanted her to conect the jolt of a spanking with how much i ment do not run from me in a parking lot!! yes i told her why and i explained to her what could happen but what children at 2 and a half do not understand is the fiality of death or danger so if they have a unpleastent experiences to help them with the memory a spanking not a beating! then like humans do they seek pleaser and do the behaivor that will bring it so they do not repeat what brought on the unpleasentness yes time outs and sitting can have the same effect but for some children this is not something that is unpleasent so after trying everything else then sometimes you need to give them a stronger reason to not repeat the behavior and i can tell you my daughter well she never let go again but i can tell you i see moms left and right with there kids chasing them in the parking lot telling a 3 year old how many times have i told you to not run from me the cars might hit you and all i can say is one time to many lady he does not belive you! so god help all of us if this law was to pass.

Answer 10

Small children are much smarter than you appear to want to give credit for.

There is a time and a place for everything. My parents spanked me when I did something wrong. They also grounded me and took away priveleges. I believe I even went to bed with out supper a few times. NO I DO NOT FEEL LIKE I WAS ABUSED because I wasn't. I have not turned into a psycho raving lunatic either. I'm a productive member of society.

Passing a law such as this will not "force" parents to "parent" their children, it will allow the state to parent the children. This will then result in higher taxes and other financial issues in order to pay for all of the legalities of this.

They are my children - and I don't believe ANYONE but God has the right to tell me how to raise or discipline my children.

Answer 11

This law depends on age when they get to a certain age like 4 or 5,they know what they are doing.I for one believe in spankings b.c if u let them get away with anythin & they run all over you.They will end up in a dangerous life in the real world when they grow up and plus aint no chap go yell or tell me what to do.I went through pains,labor,and struggles to give them a better life.I just expect for my child to do right & live a good life