I'm talking about their job coach or advocate and their friends? I don't understand, since my brain injury I have learned when you do something right, be proud of yourself, if you don't. Try to do it right again or something else, be good at it; don't let people say mean, hateful things to you no matter what.
2007-01-19 12:15:55 · 3 answers · asked by amazon 4 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Yes, I have a brain injury, people who know me and have worked with people with brain injuries know I am more capable of things that "normal" people are capable of. Yes, I like there compassion but if I do something wrong on purpose then they either try and fix the mistake or put their hand on my shoulder, like I'm going to cry and comfort me. Why? I know I'm a bit different then everyone else is, but in reality I'm not, and don't tell me it's their fears either; because I don't by that hogwash.
2007-01-19 12:45:22 · update #1
I'm assuming that it is obvious that you have experienced a brain injury? If that's correct, then the problem is that people tend to treat those who are different in one way or another, in a childlike way. They aren't intentionally being mean, but in reality, they are degrading you. Most people would assume that brain injury = mental incapicitation...just like when most people yell while speaking to all elderly people...but just as not all elderly people are hard of hearing, not all brain injury victims are mentally imcompetent.
If your having a problem with this, take the person aside and explain to them that you are not ungrateful for his/her compassion, but you feel uncomfortable being treated differently.
2007-01-19 12:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Madre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think people are trying to be degrading, usually they're just trying to show somehow that they feel compassion. They know they don't have to act like that, but they just kind of do it out of habit. But I've found that people who are used to talking to people with brain injuries treat them more or less like everyone else.
2007-01-19 20:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by yugosakimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess because they dont know what else to do? Its a shame people cant be nice to everyone. Also people tend to be kinder because they figure the injury causes some people to struggle to do things they could do at one time with no problem, Would you rather they treat them badly?
2007-01-19 20:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by littledevilinyourcup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋