im going out with a man who i love very much. he thinks i'm a virgin. BUT IM NOT, he have very strong cathlice belife that a women should be a virgin when thay wed.i told him i am a virgin but i'm not, will he be abel to tell when we have sex
2007-01-19 11:47:37 · 29 answers · asked by delkathy35 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha no he shouldn't but that's horrible to lie to him.. how would he know though? he won't trust me
2007-01-19 11:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by BLEHH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not real physical sign that will make a statement of your experience... and if he is a virgin there's probably not going to be too noticable about other clues to greater knowledge if you two were to be intimate (and if he's not? Perhaps you might want to look into the fact that the Catholic belief is EVERYONE should be a virgin until marriage, not just women).
However, in terms of a relationship, if you are looking at one that you think is going to wind up in "'til death do us part," then you may not want to put out such a lie. If the lie really is enough to break things up, I think you'd be much better finding that out now. And in the larger picture, anyone who cannot appreciate you for who you are, and that includes the experiences you've had that have come to make you just who you are right now, then they probably aren't the best person to marry.
2007-01-19 20:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Paul S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think there is sure shot way by which a man can find out whether or not u are a virgin, I know you are supposed to bleed the first time and all that, but everyone knows that a hymen can be lost due to a number of reasons, You can also tell him that u've been using tampons, and if it really worries you so much then get a hymenoplasty done.
2007-01-19 19:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by virgodoll 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know if he can tell or not, but it seems to me the more important question here is why lie to him if he is so religious?If he ever finds out that you purposely lied to him, then is he ever going to really believe what you say about other topics? I say forget if you are a virgin, tell him the truth, remind him you love him so much you would rather risk confronting him now than losing him later for a lie. If he cannot forgive one lie, then how much of a Christian is he? If he cuts you off, you are better w/o .
2007-01-19 19:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Possum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow Catholics believe women should be virgins and liars on their wedding day?
He will find out, maybe not your wedding night but some time down the road, and what then? You have shown him you are not trustworthy, just one little seed of distrust can destroy a relationship.
Why not tell him, give him the choice to marry you anyway or not. It should be up to him.
2007-01-19 19:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid some experienced guys they do.Unless you do an operation that might be more secure.Such operation is done in most middle east countries where girls must be virgin before marriage . My advice to you ,tell him the truth and start your new life with honest.
2007-01-20 03:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Khalid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The one thing that would tell that for sure gets destroyed in modern daily life. Tampons, sports, and other mundane things could take that away.
Of course, if you're realllly good and he knows it, then he might figure somethings up, or if you've gotten any STDs then the game is up.
Not a good thing to lie about though! Let him love you for who you are, there's no reason for him to fall in love with a lie.
2007-01-19 19:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by brothergoosetg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just made one mistake, you lied. don't do that cause once he do finds out he's gonna wish he never got dealt with you in the first place. tell him the truth way before you guys get married. i'm quite sure he won't dump because of that. he'll be upset but there's always time to talk things through. remember the truth will come out sooner or later whether you tell him or not but i think you know the right thing to do. good luck on your relationship
2007-01-19 19:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by jdukenumber1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, unless of course he's intelligent and is looking for your hymen.
But if I were you, I'd make sure you don't insert anything into your vagina (such as a vibrator) for a long time before your wedding night. That way, when you finally have sex it will hurt you a bit and he'll be thrilled he's taking your virginity!
That is, IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE TO LIVE A LIE :-(
2007-01-19 19:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, the reason has to do with why your hymen is pierced. Many times, this is pierced in childhood due to accidents, illness, etc. So not having an intact hymen does not mean you are not a virgin.
2007-01-19 19:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are his first sex partner maybe he can't figure it out but i doubt it...ofcourse he will find it coz it is not that "tight" anymore.But if he really loves you and believe that sex is sacred he'll marry you first before he ask 4 it so when that time comes what else can he do.....lol. JUST KIDDIN
BE HONEST SWEETY. aND TELL HIM THAT YOUR LOVE FOR HIM IS GREATER THAN ANY OTHER VIRGIN CAN GIVE:)
2007-01-19 20:09:14 · answer #11 · answered by anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋