and we did it and it was amazing and it was my first time and yes i'm old enough to have sex..... anyway a couple of weeks later I went over to his apartment 2 surprise him and found him f**king
another girl and now he is saying sorry should I forgive him or dump him ..... I still love him and it was my 1st time and he kinda ruined it 4 me I thought he loved me and only me thats what he told me
2007-01-19 11:46:36 · 19 answers · asked by SOFIA S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He isn't really sorry. It wasn't an accident. He did mean it to happen. He is ok with hurting you in that way. He will probably do it again.
Sorry to play devil's advocate on that, but hopefully this will help you make the right decision for you.
2007-01-19 11:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang that is messed up but as you get older you are going to learn that some guys will say anything to get in your pants seem like he is a real dog and if a person really loves you they would wait and personally you should wait until you get married in my opinion because your first time should have been special and hell no you shouldn't forgive him and he isn't sorry the only thing that punk is sorry for is for getting caught I know you loved him because women we think with our hearts and all, I do hope you will move on and get yourself together and maybe in time a real man will come along in your life that won't be full of games the old saying goes once a dog always a dog...
2007-01-19 19:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's a good guy n if he really is sorry, then if you forgive him he'll never go wrong again. AND you can make him feel guilty for the rest of your relationship.
but if he's just saying sorry without meaning it, then if you forgive him, he will do it again. and next time he will do it better so you don't find out easily.
its really up to u its your life...if you love him you should know him, is he worthy of your trust? its a question of your own personal judgement and you should not go with either because you will for the rest of your life keep thinking "what if i didnt choose the right one?" so i think you should just go with your heart.
p.s. so what if he's your first?? there's always a first and last for everything, that isn't what makes it special. its the person who makes it special.
2007-01-19 19:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by 28characters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, better to learn now-- at a young age-- then when you're older ...... Most men truly are like dogs, especially when their younger. I don't know how old you are, but if you're under 25-- which I'm assuming you are-- then why are you even worrying about having a "boyfriend"? Just date different people-- not necessarily sleep with all of them, mind you-- but socialize and just have a good time. You're only young once, enjoy it! You'll have all the time in the world later on to worry about relationships.
By the way, I'm single ...... and uhhh ... (ahem, ahem!) .... just joking, lol! ........... unless you're interested
2007-01-19 19:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by 821 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of "teenagers will say anything to get in your pants" Hope you enjoyed round one now get ready for the lightning round where a cute guy will swear his undying love for you then dump you when you refuse to have sex with after 3 weeks.
Get use to it sister. Not to be mean but most guys are out for one thing only. You need to find a guy that actually likes you for you. He will still want to jump your bones though, all guys want to do that.
2007-01-19 19:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by qmstr725 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***. He used you for sex. If he really loved you for you, he would have been willing to wait until whenever you were ready and you would be enough for him. The fact that he's sleeping with other women means he's not ready to totally commit to you. Save yourself the heartache, friend. There are too many good men in the world to be stressed over one.
2007-01-19 19:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Danie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Lord to forgive you your sins and guide you to do the right thing. Personally, i would dump him cos i cant take my boyfriend cheating on me. It was a very expensive lesson to be learned - sex is something pure preserved for marriage.
Take care.
2007-01-19 20:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl, i know this is not what you want to hear, but you need to dump him. Believe me, I was in the same situation as you, he asked me to forgive him and take him back, I was stupid and took him back and guess what... he cheated on me again! He also told me he loved me, but if he did really love me, then he wouldn't have cheated!
even if you forgave him, you would never forget what he did and it would put a strain on your relationship. could you trust him?
believe me, it may be hard to believe, but there are good guys out there who won't cheat on you. he's def. not the one for you.
good luck and hang in there!
2007-01-19 19:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by twinkle730 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U live and learn, most guys are just after sex, u will know better next time.
But dont get discourage, its all about growing up, u learn from your mistakes.
He is a player, so u either find another boyfriend or stick with him.
2007-01-19 19:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth I think you should dump him. If he really loved you and had sex and ****** you, you dedserve so much more than that. Feel better
2007-01-19 19:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by lemarkz51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋