I got involved with a married man and its been two years, he is in the process of getting a divorce that has taken almost a year and lives obviously alone. Can we have a lasting relationship together? i love him very much and he is crazy in love with me i just don't know if people can actually have a relationship that lasts forever after going trhough something like that. did anyone go through a similar situiation and what happened are u guys still together and happy?
2007-01-19 11:34:51 · 26 answers · asked by ... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one can really know that but you. If you really love someone, it can work, no matter how you started out.
2007-01-19 11:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Militant Agnostic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly the one I was involved with, during a separation and then later divorce didn't - I thought we were set and then he bumped into his HS sweetheart and dropped me like a Hot potato, married her a month later & now has a child.
However I do believe it's possible, but I would caution you to make sure you both talk it out, take some time to enjoy each other freely before Rushing in....or at least be willing to take a Marriage Course or couseling to hash out any issues before you say I DO so it does last forever. Sometimes the 2nd time around it Best...when you use your Heart & your Head.
2007-01-19 19:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, It depends. It depends on if he broke up FOR you or if he was already unhappy in the marriage before he met you. I wouldn't neccesarily say "Once a cheater always a cheater" but if they've done it once, it's much easier to do it again. What stops him from geting bored of you and going to someone else? If if he never does, the thought is obviously in your head or you wouldn't have asked this question. I wouldn't say break up with him now. Have fun with it, if that's what you want, but don't expect something eternal and long lasting. We as women make the mistake many times of becoming to emotional close to a situation and then being devistated if things don't turn out as planned.
I too was "the other woman" at one point in time. I thought I was really passionate about this guy. But it turns out he was a liar, and was telling us both lies. He bought me a ring of ebay, it was a REALLY cheap tacky ring, so I wanted to see how much it costs, then I clicked on his profile to see what other things he'd bought. He'd botten two of the same rings, gave one to me and one to his live-in-girlfriend at the time. So I started talking to her and we BOTH ousted him and she and I hav been best friends ever since. But that probably doesn't relate to your story, much. I have heard f people who have been involved with someone wh was married and have gone on to have meaningful realationships, it's just like all relationships, it takes a lot of work.
2007-01-19 19:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tanzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, the only way anyone knows if a relationship will last is if they actually work on the relationship. It's not in the cards, the answer that is.
All relationships I don't care how the evolved work, if the two people work on them.
It's not a magic trick, nor can your horoscope tell you.
Outside of this anyones answer doesn't matter as your own outcome depends on your personality and his and the compatibility and the bumps in life and time and how the both of you handle it.
Just don't marry him, he cheats on his wife.
2007-01-19 19:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, would you want to be in a relationship with a "soon-to-be" divorced man. If he claims he Loves you, but is still married to another woman, don't you think he'll do the same to you? Its really not worth it. You can do so much better... and if I were you, I'd definetly find me someone who is already settled and ready to be in a relationship the "right" way. Don't be so naive... it probably won't even last! I know this NOT what you wanna hear... but you have to face reality!!!!!!! Good Luck to ya
2007-01-19 19:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will depend on whether you can live with fact that he cheated and lied to his first wife will he do the same to you. You know him better than any of us , so you have to decide , Once you step over the line and start a relationship with someone who is married you will always wonder if that person will do it to you. Just something to think about.
2007-01-19 19:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by leaving.florida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never done anything like that. You must take into consideration that you might have bigger issues down the road if you continue this relationship. He is a cheater so how are you certain he isn't going to do the same to you. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Just make a wise decision for yourself.
2007-01-19 19:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not judging here just stating the obvious. He got with you before he was divorced, what makes you think he won't get sick of you and go find someone else later down the line? I am not saying that it can't work, but just keep in mind that 2 years ago he was telling his soon to be ex wife how much he loved her, and you see how that ended.
2007-01-19 19:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by answerman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my mother in law dated a guy for 2 yrs and his divorce was finally finalized a few months ago, this might sound disappointing but they broke it off finally bc it is hard still being in one relationship with someone who has kids and a life that has still not ended with another person and it takes a BIG toll on your new found relationship. If he can cheat with you he can cheat on you as well. I would take it slow it is hard to deal with situations like this but you have to keep all options open!
2007-01-19 19:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you mean to tell me he's been in the process of divorce for two years!! what's he waiting for. i wouldn't even get involved in that. at least wait until he's fully divorced. i know it's easier said than done and you really love him but just wait. plus, it may take a while for him to completely move on with his life. just because he gonna get a divorce doesn't he is over his ex wife yet. i'm young so i never been through this experience but this is just how i feel
2007-01-19 19:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by jdukenumber1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm sure you know it was wrong to date a married man, but you don't need to hear it. But my Mom met her boyfriend before her and my dad split up. They have been dating for 5 years now, and they are fine. If it's love, you can't fight it. I just hope he wasn't looking for someone to 'spice up' his relationship with his wife and found you. Just be prepared to feel the hate from his ex-wife, because it hurts to be left for someone else, especially if they are younger or whatever the case may be. I know because of how my dad felt.
Good Luck in your new level of your relationship!
2007-01-19 19:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by stormey4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋