Please Help????

Question

My 4-year old son's PA kindergarden teacher actually told him right at his face that his colouring is ugly. (He has tried to colour them all by himself) His teacher even restrict him from using colours like Black and White which is his favourite colour.

How should I put the message acorss to the teacher that she is too much as she should know that for a child who is 4 years old he will be very hurt and discourage?

Answer 1

First and foremost, a teacher should know better. We have been trained to handle situations just as described and that teacher's response was never in my training. Also concerning your son's age, I usually get more parents who are trying to force their children to color nicely than to allow the child's creativity to flow. So this is some what of a role reversal. Your child is four. At the age of four when it comes to fine motor skills we do not expect perfect coloring and nor do we expect for grass to be green but maybe blue and red. Also as for use of one color, that is nothing different than what I get in my own preschool with 3 and 4 year old children coloring. I have a little boy who insists on every thing being pink and every shade of pink he can find in the 96 color box of crayola crayons. It is a phase and the teacher shouldn't even be concerned.
Secondly if the teacher was concerned they have spoken with the parent first. This is the general rule in preschool environments.
Your actions should be to write a letter to the teacher, explain your concern and opinions and even suggest solutions to the problem. Then wait for a response. If that does not receive a response then take the concern to her employer or supervisor. Explain the situation, what happened and your concerns. Explain what you would like done concerning the situation and work out a mutual agreement. The supervisor or employer may set up a meeting between you and the teacher. Listen to both sides and see if anything can be done to remedy the situation.
Remember you are child's biggest advocate in the school system, without you they don't have anyone else to stick up for them.

Answer 2

Here is a variation of an old story that teachers should have heard:

But....then there was art class. The project was to paint a sky and windmill scene on a piece of wood. She knew instantly that she wanted to paint it with a sunset. She could see the windmill spinning, feel the gentle breeze, and smell the fresh air--the image was so real in her mind. She had never painted before; and she was a little frustrated that her sunset came out a little dark. More like the moment before the light disappears and darkness envelopes all. No, it wasn’t perfect. But it was close enough and she was excited to give it to her mother. But, the pride was short lived. The art teacher came over and practically yelled at her, “What have you done???” “I was trying to paint a sunset...” she stammered, trying to slide down further in her seat, her pride slipping away like a leaf floating down the gutter grate into the depths of the sewer. “You’ve ruined it!” The teacher exclaimed. The whole class was staring now. The gaze of each eye like a dagger stabbing her thin, small body, “It’s looks like you’ve got a STORM going on here.” Then the teacher snatched the work out of her hands, took away her paintbrush, and suffocated the girl’s imagination with “cover up” paint in an attempt to fix it. Finally, the teacher slammed it down, turned her back to the little girl and said as she walked away, “I can’t do anything with that.” Still, the little girl took the art home to her mother. The mother exuberated joy and pride and prominently displayed it. But the little girl just thought her mother was trying to make her feel better and didn’t really mean it. All the little girl saw was a violent storm.

Make an appointment to speak with the teacher and hand this over to her/him. Teachers have an incredible power to inspire a child, or crush a child. This teacher, is doing the later. There is a theory that says a child's color choice reflects his/her 'emotional state'. That theory is weak and should only be seen as a theory. My son drew everything in black and red up thorugh 5th grade. The school said those colors indicated he needed counseling cause he had deep-seated problems. He got nearly straight A's, no behavior problems. got citizenship awards! I skipped that counseling, thinking it was just one of his quirky phases he liked to go through. today, he is a minister and musician. and no longer likes to color in black!

Answer 3

Talk to the teacher and ask her why she thinks that your child drawing is ugly? Keep cool while you listen to her answer. After that tell her that in early childhood context, the child's drawing matters more is what is the child trying to express rather that what is the outcome of the picture presented.
Btw, the child drawing should not be labelled as ugly or nice, the teacher should actually ask the child what he/she have drawn and keep it as a observation record of the child's holistic development. i seriously doubt this teacher professionalism and ethics. If in need, you should actually speak to the centre's management or supervisor.

Answer 4

Your son should be able to use whatever colors he wants. maybe the teacher's a butthead, or maybe she is just trying to show tha black and white aren't actual colors. either way, she's out of line. it is harassment for a teacher to openly insult a student based on thier preferences. She's a preschool teacher, so remind her of the thumper rule: if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.

Answer 5

Forget about talking to the teacher and speak directly to her superior. That behavior is unacceptable in a childcare facility. The child should be able to express himself. I would not allow any of my employees to talk like that to a child. Chances are that your child is not the only child which she has said something like that to.

Answer 6

Just be straight up with her, and tell her she doesn't have the right to talk to YOUR child that way. That is very unprofessional of her, she should choose another career, anyhow, if his coloring is ugly, she could at least address it another way! And be more compassionate about it. But then again..some teachers choose their favorites!

Answer 7

have a meeting with the teacher, inform her that you are not happy with the comments, let her know that as a teacher she needs to encourage students, not put them down.

Have her to tell your son that his coloring is not ugly, that he could try to use other colors.

Report her to the school principal.

Spend some time with your son coloring.

Answer 8

perhaps it is in order to stifle the teacher... like she stifled your son

Answer 9

um tell the princepal school board do something!