cheating boyfriend.?

Question

my boyfriend cheated on me. 2 times.

i forgave him for the first time, (it was only kissing) but i was still pretty upset.

eventually, he gained back his trust, and he did it again.
but the way i found out, was reading his myspace messages.

i really love him.and it would hurt me so much if i left him.
so im trying to decide how to get the message through to him that this is the last time, because im sick of him ******* around with other girls.

got any ideas?
is revenge the answer?

Answer 1

You gave him more than he deserved by forgiving him once. His behavior shows you that he doesn't love you. If he loved you, he would show you by honoring and respecting you. Get rid of him, the sooner the better. You deserve better. You deserve someone who will love you.

Answer 2

Lets be honest. Its not the last time, is it? If you were ever going to dump him, it would have been after the first time. Now you're just hooked. You have to make the desicion to either accept that he is going to cheat on you again (he will, and you know it) or leave him and that's the end of it. No matter what. Revenge isn't the answer. It won't make you feel any better.

Good luck. There's someone better out there for ya.

Answer 3

If your bf cheated on you that means he doesn't love you. There is no point in you being with him. You should just break up with him. Nothing you do will change him. That comes from inside a person and as you can see he didn't change. If he can cheat on you twice he's just going to keep cheating on you because he knows that you'll always forgive him. It is better to be in pain for months and forget him than be in pain for years because he keeps on cheating on you. Revenge is not the answer. Plus, you might think that you have forgiven him but deep down inside you are never going to trust him completely and that doubt isn't going to let you be happy with him. Everytime you're with him and you're going to wonder if he's done something wrong and it's going to drive you crazy. Everytime you're not with him you're going to wonder who's with him and what he's doing. It's going to drive you crazy again. You'll never be in peace with yourself. Ask yourself if that's the life you want, the life of wonder. Trust someone that has been through it. You'll never be happy with that person. I'm also wondering how you could love someone that has disrespected you not once but twice. How could you love a cheater. How could you love someone who doesn't care a fig about you. He doesn't care about you or else he wouldn't have cheated on you...........SORRY if I couldn't be more helpful.

Answer 4

It doesn't seem like he takes your threats seriously. He cheated once, you forgave him and then he cheated again. I'm sorry for the heartache you are experiencing but I think if you seek revenge, you are going to feel even worse. My advice to you would be end the relationship and move on. It will hurt but you have to mourn your loss which will eventually begin the healing process. You will recover, I promise! If you keep putting up with his cheating ways, you most likely will have to deal with this painful cycle over and over again. It will be painful but the sooner you cut ties the sooner you will feel better. Take care honey and be strong!

Answer 5

Yeah I know love does hurt and I have been there before with guys cheating on me over and over again and I had to get my self respect back, Just because you love him doesn't mean you should settle for his garbage move and don't get revenge trust me its not worth it. If he loved you so much he wouldn't take your love for granted tell him since you aren't feeling me then we need to move on because a real man would appreciate a real woman ... Whatever you do I wish you well bye for now.

Answer 6

Why would he change if there were no consequences the first two times??? People tend to do whatever is acceptable in their world. If you are accepting this behavior, then it probably won't change. If you set boundaries, then he will know it's not acceptable to you. Good Luck with that...that sucks to be in that place. Don't bother with revenge either...it's really not worth your time or energy!

Answer 7

Revenge is never the answer. In taking revenge, you are stooping to his level, and it will only make you feel rotten about yourself.

Tell him honestly what you told us, and write it down for yourself, so that if ever the temptation to date him crosses your mind again you will remember why you dumped the pathetic loser in the first place.

Answer 8

You've taught him that it's OK for him to cheat on you. How did you do that? By forgiving him. I don't wish to be unkind but if you love him and cannot consider leaving him, you'd better get used to his cheating. AND it will not be limited to kissing in the future. Loving someone who cheats is a mighty long, tough road. It may be very painful to leave him but it's very likely that you can have bad, bad pain for a while or have episodes of pain for as long as he's in your life.

Answer 9

Oh Hannah...Don't you see your boyfriend does not care about you or love you? If he did he would never hurt you like this. I made the mistake of forgiving my ex for cheating on me and he ended up leaving me to raise our kids alone while he's off getting laid.

Leave this loser now and don't be scared. Love yourself more than him and never ever let someone disrespect you again. Leave him and go find a good man.

Answer 10

revenge is definitely not the answer, what's the point of you two being in a relationship if u guys are just going to cheat on each other??

he really needs to chill out to.....i understand that you care for him, but you don't need to be with anyone who can't be faithful to you.

Answer 11

The best way to get the message across to him, is to leave him. It may hurt you to leave him, but it will hurt so much more to your self esteem if you stay. You deserve so much more. You already gave him a second chance, and he obviously did not take you seriously, it's not fair to you. Be strong, and move on.