i have not seen or talk to an old flame in over 4 years, now he has popped out of the wood work and wants to meet up. what should i do. i am in a relationship now and have a beautiful son. lost and confused i need your help.
2007-01-19 11:24:55 · 16 answers · asked by angel_boo_2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No don't do it he had his chance and he blew it all. Now that your gone on with your life and his life did not go as planned he wants to try to talk to you now. NO a waste of time don't let him come in and try to break up a blessing that you have your relationship and a beautiful son. All you have now is not worth loosing cause he wants to meet no tell him your involved and happy and do not want to see him so he can get to stepping. SMILE!!
2007-01-19 11:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 check your self befor you wreck your self and every one else that you hold near and dear 2 your heart.
#2 follow through with what you decide 2 due. if your wishy washy yyyyour gonna hurt your self and others.
#3 Rember that the past is is history and if we dont learn from it than we repete it.it was not all cherry pie.
#4 you have 2 live with your decission.accept it and get on with your life.
#5 most of all Be true to your self and due unto others as you due for your self.
#6 That was then and this is now. whats better whats the best then you will realize whats next.
2007-01-19 19:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by walter c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi :) I just wanted to say .. That you made the RIGHT decision 4yrs ago. And so because YOU HAVE moved on. That by the way is a GOOD THING!!... :) Just let YOUR old flame. Know that you are HAPPY in the new relationship. And that you want him to respect you. And the new family that YOU have. Just stay friends!!... x GOOD LUCK!!.
2007-01-19 19:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for your son. You are a mother now, and as such you are not just responsible to yourself. You need to think about how your actions are going to affect him and what kind of example you are setting for him.
In addition, I never recommend dating an ex -- it is a vicious cycle in which you keep returning to the same old problems. Bad idea.
2007-01-19 19:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you have a beautiful son and I'm sure a great husband that loves you, what more do you want?:)
Go on with your life that it is now, you don't need him. Don't turn your back on your loved ones.
2007-01-19 19:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rufio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, meeting isn't bad. Make the date...and show up with your relationship complete and in tow. Happiness scares weirdos off,...but may wind up becoming a friendship for all of you!
2007-01-19 19:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by longhair140 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a commited realtionship you shouldnt meet up....would you want your boyfriend to go meet up with and old flame?
2007-01-19 19:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would try to stay away because i wouldn't want any thing to happen to my relationship and i wouldn't want my son to get hurt by thinking something else is going on behind the dads back relationships are built on trust and loyalty to one another
2007-01-19 19:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by chongo89478 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a decent person would want to "meet" with a lady knowing that she already has a son.
I think it shows disrespect for you and your family.
I would not be confused in this situation nor should you. ))
Good luck.
2007-01-19 19:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mira 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really happy in a relationship, why would you want to go there? Why put yourself in that place if you're already in a good place????? If you're not happy, though, maybe it's time to re-evaluate. hmmmmmmm
2007-01-19 19:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sam F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋