Grades&Siblings.?

Question

I'm tired of my Mom always focusing on me. I don't get a break.

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I'm more worried about my sister. She is failing a lot, and has already stayed back this year. Nothing is really improving, and I worry a lot. She's been talking to the guidance counselor and a therapist. Whats wrong? I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

You can do nothing but be a brother. But as a girl--let me tell you that is a big deal and means a lot. So just be close to her and do what you can. But do not be pushy. And do not take the burden on yourself. Just be a brother.

I don't know why your Mom would do this.But it seems for some reason she has greater expectations of you than your sister. Be sure and constantly let your sister know in little ways that she is totally capable and awesome.

Answer 2

It might be that you're mom is focusing on you because she doesn't know what to do with your sister, and so you're basically a distraction. Also, sometimes it depends on who's the eldest- I don't know which one of you are, but if she's the younger, she might have either been through this talk already and your mom is tired of dealing with her, or she's focusing you because you're the one who's going to go into college first, and she has to worry about you the most. If you're the younger one, it might be exactly the opposite; she might be focusing on you because she's trying to give your sister a break or because she doesn't see any hope in your sister's case.

What do you think is wrong with your sister? It could be a lot of differnent things- new friends, new habits, abuse, different school, break-up with boyfriend. Who knows? Maybe she's finally hitting puberty or something. There's a lot of different things that are possible. Try talking to her about it yourself. But don't stress yourself out too much about it. She is your sister, and your parents are doing what they know best. Without trying to start anything, talk about it to them only after you've talked to your sister.

Answer 3

I don't think its your responsibility to take on such a stressful situation. Tell your mom how you feel and tell her to take all eyes off you and pay more attention to your sister and her lack of interest in school. If not, talk to your guidance counselor and let him/her know how you feel.

Answer 4

What your sister doesn't isn't anything you need to concern yourself with. She's your mother's problem.

Your mother, however, may be your problem. If a nice, calm, conversation with your mother about how you feel doesn't work you could try talking with a school counselor about the problem. Maybe they could talk to your mother.

Answer 5

i went through that stage and to be honest i still am im really failing and mmy old teacher new what to do cause she new me and now this new teacher does i reacon its cause i went throught stress cause my parents were sick but i still struggled when they came home so that's rubbish i think that it is just to hard and instead of asking for help like me she just writes it down i know how it feels

Answer 6

if your mother is pushing you, and neglecting your sister, you should make studying a bonding time with your sister... my sister and I do... and it helps her alot...