My 8 year old son has just recently started to cry and get sick to his stomach EVERY Monday morning on our way to school. He claims that no one is bothering him at school. He has a wonderful teacher, who genuinely cares about her students and I volunteer as much as possible to make sure he is OK ... however, I have no idea what is going on. Can anyone advise me as how to help him overcome his anxiety? He is painfully shy (for example, he would rather throw away a homework assignment then raise his hand and ask a question.) I do not want to see him suffer with these feelings of uneasiness any longer ..... how do I help him to overcome his anxiety before it starts to affect all different areas of his life??? OR am I just being a "crazy" mom? I love my kids so much and it hurts ME to see him suffer the way he does! ANY suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
2007-01-19 11:01:12 · 13 answers · asked by MaHaa 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
TYhis is new behavior. He does have friends and I only volunteer one hour a week...I am starting to get very concerned!
2007-01-19 11:29:41 · update #1
Perhaps he has become use to you being there as a volunteer and is afraid that you will not stay. Sounds like separation anxiety. You may have to take him and leave so that he becomes OK with you not being there. I know that is hard to do.
Does he have friends in the class? You might think about inviting some of his classmates over to your home to play and have snacks. If he makes some good friends, then he may not be so concerned about you being or not being there.
If he is doing well in his subjects, I wouldn't suggest a tutor. School is an important part of his social development.
Have you asked his teacher for an opinion about what might be wrong?
You are not a "crazy" mom. It is difficult to watch them go through some of the things they have to go through to grow up. I'm a dad of a 20 yr. old son and a 23 yr. old daughter and I still worry about everything that happens to them.
God bless and good luck.
2007-01-19 11:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bearcat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first you have to make sure that if it's only on Monday mornings maybe he doesn't want to go to school after the weekends. But if he gets stomach aches and cry this is a little more serious. Some ways that you could help him is have a group of friends from his class come over once a week so that he will not be scared to raise his hand. Then he will also look forward to going so he can see his friends. If you don't want this to affect anything else in his life then make sure he isn't running around and sitting in the car much. young children hate sitting in the car. try to find him a sport that he loves so he can go outside and play to keep his mind off of things. what I am trying to say is keep him active. if that doesn't work you have to get the teacher involved. tell her what is happening and ask her if she could ask him to do something small to make him feel special. Ask her to do something small such as wipe down the board or pass out papers. I would suggest you request a parent teacher conference. last give him as much attention as possible
2007-01-19 12:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Answerfinder1360 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 10:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by murchison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for your son to get upset about school. You can help him by trying to frame school in a positive light, smile in the morning when it is time to go, be sure he has enough sleep the night before and a good breakfast in the morning. Don't keep asking him if someong is bothering him at school, you can help him by keeping the lines of communication between home and school open, have the teacher contact you to let you know how he is doing,and let him come to you with situations he wants to discuss. As for the shyness, encourage him to participate in class more. You can ask the teacher to have a show and tell, to help get him talking about something he is intreasted in.
2007-01-19 12:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by teamteacher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Separation anxiety?First though I would take your son for a check up to make sure that there is notjing physically wrong.No you are not a crazy mum.Ta;lk to his teachers.In several t of my daughters classes we had two children one in grade 1 and another in grade 3 who did not like being separated from their mums.They were mummy boysThey outgrew their fears of school and one of them is now a horror.Your son wont be.It couldbe something else going on at school.Is he having trouble with his schoolwork?Sure no harm in volunteering but stay at arms length from your son.Let him know you are there to help with the whole class not just himself.Best of luck.
2007-01-19 21:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your definitely sure he hasn't got any bully problems and is coping with his school work.... and if it's not medical,
It's has to be his self esteem..
Take him out to socialise more (with a friend) parks/ arcades/ pools a marshal arts class or a drama class etc.
Find out who his best friend at school is, invite the friend over more, set things up for them to hang out together. Then he won't be able to wait to meet up with his friend at school in the mornings.
Please don't give in to letting him pull a sicky. He'll try it on every time.
Don't forget to encourage him about school and be as excited about it as you want him to be.
Nothing wrong with being shy, but he might need counselling if his anxiety is making him physically sick aye.
And your allowed to be a "crazy" mom, they make the best mom's.
2007-01-20 01:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by imhismisses 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a chat with the teacher to see if his behaviour has changed in class. It might be worth him having a chat with the school psychologist on coping strategies with his anxiety but I wouldn't fully believe nothing is going on at school, they don't always like to tell. Good luck
2007-01-19 13:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was getting severe stomach pains, but hers were at night. We thought, just normal kid stuff, but talked to her doctor, and reccomended us to a GastroIntestinal Doctor. Turns out our daughter is lactose-interolant.
2007-01-19 20:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by knhglassey@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't freak out, but if this is new behavior, you might consider sending him to see the school counselor, because these things you are describing are some of the signs displayed by children who have been molested. I am not saying he has been, but are you absolutely sure he hasn't? Either way a school counselor may be able to help him with the crying and throwing up if it is anxiety abut social situations or the other. Good luck!
2007-01-19 11:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Aww that must be awful for him. All I can think of right now is what about getting a tutor, maybe he gets embarrassed in front of the entire class so if he is working one on one with someone it might be easier. Talk with him about it to see if he would be interested in that.
2007-01-19 11:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by Katie Girl 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋