theres this guy i met about 4 months ago , hes hot!!!, nice, fun, and real funny, cool to hang out with and we have a lot of the same interests .. .. we went on a few dates, hung out a few times, .... every time we hung out ,we had a good time , and even on new years he was really showin and tellin me how much he liked me ..... but now i find out that he might still have something for his ex... i heard that he was at some friends house a few days ago and he was lookin at her picture and just kept starin at it!... now i dont know what the hell to do.. i figure i should just leave him alone.. but i dont know! he seemed really realllllyyy serious when he was showin me all the affection on new years!! i do believe him about the fact that he really likes me but what the hell is the deal with him lookin at his ex's picture?... guyss anybody got any explanation?
2007-01-19 10:55:37 · 14 answers · asked by lola b. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should keep seeing him, but maybe try to keep it more casual until you are sure that he is over his ex or wants something more serious from you.
Depending on how long he broke up with her, no he might not be completely over her. But him staring at a picture isn't damning evidence that he wants her back. It would be more serious if he was still seeing her and hanging out with her.
2007-01-19 11:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by DanieEdge 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to manage two relationships, especially if feeling are involved. It seem as if your friend is torned between moving on and saying goodbye. This is pretty easy to deal with, first you must decide if you want to be in the game, if so, then become part of his "thinking world," let him know that you are a very understanding person and that you can deal with real issues. Therefore, you bring up his last relationship and how he feels about how it ended and what would it take to heal such a relatonship and that you are a true friend that is willing to deal whatever. Now, the ball is in his court..so let start this relationship with a little trust :)
2007-01-19 11:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by wstewart98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not over her yet. He may be trying to get over her, and he probably does like you, but....he's not ready for another relationship.
You could end up really hurt. Tell him how you feel about all of this, and tell him your gonna give him some space for awhile. Then wait and see what happens. See other guys in the mean time.
As far as New Years that's a hard nite to be alone. Don't read to much into how he was acting on that particular nite.
2007-01-19 11:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Nezbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's into you. talk to him and find out whats up!
As for the picture thing... you know how that goes... he could have looked at it for a few seconds and by time it got back to you a few seconds turned in month... don't worry about it!
Guys will always look at pics, even of ex's. Nothing to worry about..
So, like I said. Talk to him. Don't play the guessing game. It will get you no where fast.
2007-01-19 11:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by asgrafxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is normal..i mean sometimes people have a hard time getting over someone else.
just wait it out and see. if he continues to look at her picture and seem to miss her then you should ask him what is going on. it would be reallly weird if you two were actually BF & GF, but since it sounds like you're not, he has every right to do what he wants to do by looking at his ex's picture. just keep an eye on it, ask him whats going on and decide from there whether you should continue seeing him.
2007-01-19 11:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by kristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say!!!
The worst approach to take is to get visibly jealous of his ex. (Drive him away faster than the speed of light.)
I suppose, you've simply got to decide whether you enjoy being with him and whether he HONESTLY likes you. Build on the relationship but slow down. If you feel he is not really with you, I guess you should consider dumping him.
Think of it this way; THERE IS A REASON SHE IS HIS EX!!!
2007-01-19 11:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it. I would let him know how I feel about him looking at his ex's pictures ask him if he still likes her. Find out what he wants and then you will know what to do.
2007-01-19 11:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by teddybear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might want to promote off him asap. If he likes yet another female and she or he him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? true love would not play video games or have wandering eyes, that is dedicated and exertions. you should make certain this as a purple flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you mustn't also be pondering a intense relationship that is going to reason you lack of self belief. have relaxing, do not develop into overly invested in this, WHAT? you may't flirt? bypass on, the writing is on the wall and it spells problem. Do your self a want and decrease the guy loose, no matter if that is destined to be, that is going to run that is direction and he will be lower back. yet why you may want to take him lower back in common words you may answer.
2016-10-15 11:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, but i think he is kinda young, even if his gurl friend left him at the time he didnt want to leave her, logicly how could he possibly think about another gurl and tell her i like u, at the time he still thinks about his ex....sorry , he is far to young to be grown i guess,...its about 1 person in ur heart not 2 or 3....u get it ?
2007-01-19 11:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Z unbelieveable truth 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know how you feel basically! you need to tell him how you feel first. if he knows, then ask him if he has something for his ex, and what he wants from you. asking some questions might get things started!
2007-01-19 10:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋