What can i do to help my little sister?

Question

I go to the same school with her and i find out that she's being picked on by most students because of her immaturity and immature way of swaring. My parents tried everything in their power to stop this from happening, but the staff members at school won't help her. If fact, she is taken the blame whenever somebody picks on her and gets away with it.

Today, i've tried to get her act straight by telling her to work hard, have a successful life and all I can think of, but my younger sister is stubborn as heck to listen, What can i do? Please, anybody?

Answers related to school transfer won't work, because it will only make it worse, since my school is small. Meaning she'll get picked on even more. i need answers related to changing her attitude.

Answer 1

This is a self correcting problem. She will receive the negative attention until she tires of it enough to change.

Answer 2

I'm not exactly sure what the problem is. You said "immature way of swaring." I assume you meant "swearing." If that's an issue it sounds like she's trying to be someone she is not, which is always a problem because it points to a lack of self-esteem. But you also used the term "immaturity" by itself and that's not very helpful as a description. I wish you young folks would add the age of people, it would make it a lot easier to know whats going on. But essentially I agree with an above statement that this would be a self-correcting problem. This is the way people grow up, it's just harder for some than others. Your encouragement may be the best thing for her if you don't over-do it.

Answer 3

If she's being herself and is being picked on because she is different, the school has a legal responsibility to protect her. If she's being provocative--she is doing things to intentionally cause others to become annoyed or angry then she needs the help of a counselor or psychologist. Once again, the school is obligated to provide her with the help she needs. If your school is a private one, then the counseling must come from the outside. If your parents do not have this covered under their Health Insurance, then there are places that provide the care based on what people can afford. You have a good heart. Talk to your parents and/or school counselor to try to get her the help that she needs. One way or another, she needs the help of a psychologist who specializes in children and adolescents. The guidance counselor or principals at your school or your family doctor will know the names of the best ones in your area. Good Luck.

Answer 4

im surprised and disgusted that the school is not offering any help!! if she's being picked on that is bullying no matter what and schools should not condone that. what i would do is speak to your local borough councils education department. they should have what is called a 'behavioural support unit' which in cases of bullying are supposed to work alongside the school. ring your local town hall and ask to speak to the education department. ask them to put you in touch with this unit if they have one. it may be that she needs counselling. schools should have a counsellor, or you might be able to get a referral for one from your sisters gp. there is obviously an underlying reason why she's behaving this way and it needs to be addressed quickly. i dont know if calling 'kidscape' might help. there an organisation that deal with all sorts of issues and bullying. its something they might be able to give advice on as to how you should move forward on this, especially as the school's not doing anything to help. check out the web address below, but give your education dept a ring also ok!! i hope your sister gets the help she needs. best wishes.

Answer 5

Your sister is going to have to WANT it to stop before it can stop.
First of all, kids who get picked on get picked on because they react. The more they react, the more they will get picked on.
My son had this problem & it was heart breaking. Like you, the school couldn't help. So, I toldl him that no matter how hard it was he needed to pretend that the teasing didn't upset him, when the bullys didn't get the reaction they moved on to someone who would react. I also told him to do his best to not be near those kids.
If your sister acts weird or dresses weid, she maybe is socially challenged.

You can help her all you can, but when it comes right down to it, she has to face this herself . She needs to find pragmatic ways to change things. All you can do is give her some suggestions and encourage her to change.

Like I told my son......fake confidence until he has it. And it worked. And all his life he has stood up for the underdog.

Answer 6

All you can do is work with her on her attitude and stand up for her when you see or hear people picking on her. Let her know you love her and will always be there for her but that she has to help herself if she wants the situation to get any better. Won't happen overnight or even over weeks, but maybe in a few months things will be better.

Answer 7

You don't say how old she is but 99% of the time there is nothing you can do if the person themselves does not want to change. All you can do is praise her when she does show good behavior and hopefully that will give her something to change for. It sounds to me like she is choosing to keep doing the things she gets picked on for. Just be there for her.

Answer 8

Ask her if she's happy. Presumably she'll say no, ask her why she thinks she gets treated the way she does at school, to compare her behaviour to others. If there is someone she admires ask her what they do, or don't do that she does, or doesn't do. Suggest she could behave in a similar way to the person she admires. Reassure her that there is nothing wrong with her and you love her, but her behaviour at times lets her down. If all else fails, let her learn the hard way but support her and let her know you love her.

Answer 9

How old are you and your sister. All you can really do is explain to her. If she is that stubborn, then maybe she needs to learn the hard way. Don't lose hope and keep being a supportive brother. Good luck.

Answer 10

Is she upset about being picked on? It seems like she doesn't care about it... does she defend herself when other students are teasing her?

Being over-protective won't get her to come around, if anything she will rebel even more. Try asking her if there is something bothering her, and if there is anything you can do to help - consistently let her know you're there for her, but only offer advice when she asks for it.

Answer 11

what grade is she in? And why does she have an irritable, or immature attitude? Maybe somethings bothering her? I'd tell your parents to take her to the school counselor or a private practice one. A psychologist.