i'm a irish cathelick gypsy women, going out with a irish cathelick gypsy man, who i love very much.our coulture is the women have to be a virgin before thay wed.but im not a virgin & obviosly he thinks i am.now he asked me to marry him & im worred sick of losing him. i havent slept with a man for 3 years, i love him so much i dont want to lose him because of this,What can i do to make him belive i'm a virgin when we sleep toghether.HELP ME WHAT AM I GOING TO DO!!!!!
2007-01-19 10:51:58 · 10 answers · asked by delkathy35 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If virginity is so important when you marry in your culture then I'm afraid you are going to have to fake it luv!
I'm normally one for honesty but from what you've said this isn't an option.
Make sure you don't look like you're enjoying it too much the first time, gasp when he first puts it in as though it hurts, squeeze your pelvic muscles throughout so you feel really tight to him. Don't worry about the hymen and blood loss because a lot of virgins don't have these the first time anyway.
Just keep this up for the first few times then you can let rip and start enjoying it.
Make him think that he is teaching you everything you know!
2007-01-20 23:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biological there is a physical difference for you if you were a virgin (sorry if i'm stating the obvious): your hymen. Bleeding is common once he breaks through your hymen, so it is likely that he will know. IF he isn't a virgin then i think anything other than telling him the truth could result in you looking like your lying (not a good start). If he is, then perhaps he may not know what happens when a man sleeps with a virgin, so you could get away with it. If you've been particularily sporty then this can sometimes break your hymen so in some ways you could mention there won't be any blood because your hymen has already been broken.
However, i'm a particularily moral and honest person and beleive honesty is the best policy; so my advice would be to tell him the truth. IF he is the man you say he is, then don't get too stressed because his love for you should overcome this.
Good luck :-)
2007-01-19 19:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by hipstar_1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been three years so you could let it go because it will feel like the first time again..but you would always know so If I was you,I would set him down and tell him.Explain its has been a very long time and you are giving him your true love and you will have a lifetime to experience first times.If he loves you in the way a man should love a woman, he will be mad and hurt but he will accept it because he loves you for more than your virginity.
2007-01-19 19:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him. theres a big difference down there from when your a virgin... and your not. im a virgin and it probably feels different for a guy. just be honest with him. being decietful about it isnt a very good start to your marraige.
2007-01-19 18:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont start a wedding on a lie, its a bad start.
if u really cant tell him then i'd start tightening those pelvic muscles, and clench 2, 3, and clench2, 3
though i would question why u think u cant tell him if he loves u it shouldnt matter?
last resort tell him u were forced by someone else and you cant talk about it? (though personally i think that ones a lot sick)
good luck
2007-01-19 20:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well he seems to not be as traditional and more with the times anyway when i lived in belfast the travellers there said they all still had arranged marriages.so if hes more with the times im sure this wont be a problem to him
2007-01-19 18:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks you are and your not. You need to tell him the truth.If he really loves you it will work out somehow. God is forgiving and if this man really loves you than he will be forgiving of your past but if you lie or do not tell the truth and he finds out. It will be harder for him to forgive or forget. Tell him the truth .
2007-01-20 12:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lie there in bed and do nothing and make a gasping noise when you first do the dirty deed don`t forget to act all timid and ay its your first time and will he be gentle with you lol - good luck
2007-01-19 18:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by caitlin_the_skeptic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** you i will him to do not marry you when your not honest for your calture how can be honest for your man you ******* girls losing your virginty away any time that is not good please stay virgin and be honest for your man
i think it is not only in ur calture but i think in most cultures that is the same but it is them who dont care about that
2007-01-20 05:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by nasir A 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you should count one,two,tree,i pray my pelvic muscles dont betray me!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-19 19:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by ANGELA C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋