One time I was over at my sisters house and in the kitchen getting something to eat and he cop a feel of my butt. He pressed up against me when my back was turned and I could feel his erection. I feel so violated and it's so nasty.What do I do? I don't know how to tell anyone about this. I told him to stop and slapped him after the incidents but it's not working!
2007-01-19 10:44:24 · 23 answers · asked by JamaicanmecrayZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell him if he doesnt stop den ur gonna tell ur sister and shes gonan break up wit him. or sey ur gonna take him to court for asault
2007-01-19 10:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago this happened to me. My husband's sister's husband hit on me by trying to fondle my leg in a restaurant (on her birthday no less.) I was very upset. The second time his hand went on my leg, I stabbed it with my fork...hard enough to make him yelp and bleed. That was the end of that. I did not have to say anything to my sister-in-law. He never tried such a thing again. My dear husband took me out to a different restaurant and then home.
If it had ever happened again, I would have used the Miss Manners approach. Remember a lady is gentle and delicate (that is why this works.)
Step 1: Shriek in horror, surprise, and disgust at the moment the man misbehaves. This draws attention and witnesses instantly to the scene of the offense.
Step 2: Become overly emotional and upset, so the ladies present come to your assistance. You don't have to say much, chances are he will head for the hills because he has been caught in the act of misbehavior. If you're lucky, he will incriminate himself by trying to defend himself.
If you have to do this more than once or twice, you will simply become too much trouble to bother with his cad-like, immoral behavior. He will look for easier targets and his wife/ your sister will get wise to his behavior. You won't have to tell her...it will be obvious.
I wouldn't slap. Cads like this take that as sexy or as a challenge. That is exactly the opposite of what you want to portray.
2007-01-19 11:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You so need to clue your sister in on things...Don't do this while he is there...Call her over to where you can talk to her. Let her know of this...Think if you don't, how will life be when its the holidays and all over you are in the same house or at the same family function, things would feel awkward to you. This is not right to you nor your sister. The old saying "Blood is thicker than water"...Don't let him get awat with this..He could think since you have not said anything at this point that he can do it again and get away with it..I feel for you..You don't want to see your sister hurt but you dont want to see her loving this man with everything she has....then for him to pull some sh*% like this..Dont feel like its your fault, you did not bring this on..but PLEASE talk to her..Good Luck and Best Wishes!
2007-01-19 11:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what the right thing to do. You should tell your sister. You have told hom on several occasions to stop and he has no respect for you or your sister. I can assure you that this is not going to be easy as your sister is going to be angry at you and question you. Be strong. I would advise telling your mom or dad and having one of them (or someone else you trust) with you when you talk with her. Good luck.
2007-01-19 11:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by blaak_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell you Sister. your Sister deserves to know that she's married to a scumbag. She should be able to make the choice to stay with a man who will sleep with her family members. I'm telling you, people who sleep with their spouse's family members are the scum of the earth. He would sleep with you, your cousins your wife's friends--anyone. And he wont change. 15 years from now, he'll be trying to hit on your daughters. I know because that happened in my family. Your Sister should know that God would bless her with a good man if she leaves her pereverted husband.
2007-01-19 11:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is one simple answer to this-
scare him back into reality. tell him if he does not behave appropriately and leave you alone you will tell your sister. if he continues, tell her what is going on and prove it by letting her catch him in the act.
all else fails stay away from the house or dont go there when he's there. he sounds like a creep!
2007-01-19 11:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by emzc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bite the bullet and tell your sister before he goes all the way with you.slapping his face only encourages him.sex is next then you cant tell your sister. how could explain that you did not stop him when felt your butt .do your sister a big favor and expose this creep
2007-01-19 11:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all.. I am the type of person that immediatley tell him.. to f**k off..and I would also stay away from him..I would atleast tell your sister about it. maybe get like a video camera or something and tape it sometime.. I would atleast get proof if you would want to let your sister know.
2007-01-19 12:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my sisters hasn't talked to me in 10 years because of a situation such as yours. Be careful what you do, you don't want to loose your relationship with your sister.
When my Brother inlaw cornered me when we were left alone, I decided never to go to their house again. I never said anything to my sister, she wouldn't of believed me any way. I did tell my parents because I wanted them to understand why I wasn't going to my Sisters house when invited.
My Sister and her Husband ended up divorcing and she feels I was having and affair with her husband. I wonder if she feels I stayed away because I felt guilty and really it was because I wasn't confortable around him. I have given up trying to change her mind. I really do have my own life.
2007-01-19 11:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Plain Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your question? If you're asking how to handle it, the answer is just like you would any other person. if he wants to pay you cash for your repairs, fine, but aside from that get his insurance company and file a claim just like you would if he were a stranger.
2016-05-23 22:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he EVER does ANYTHING again, that you will go straight to your sister and tell her everything, then walk away before he can say anything at all! If he does hit on you again, TELL HER!!! If he is hitting on his wife's sister, (you) just think how many other women he must hit on.
He's dirt. Your sister deserves better.
2007-01-19 10:57:08 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Nezbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋