What should I do about my aunt?

Question

I love her to death but recently she came to visit at my house with me and my boyfriend and his twins. She will not stop trying to control our house. I'm a christian and all but everytime I play rap/R&B in the car with the twins she losses it. See I'm 18 he's 20 and the twins are 2. I've raised them since they were only 3 newborns. They are basically mine. They know they have another mother but she is crazy. They call me mom something I never told them to do. Anyway she continues to try to pressure me to breakup with him because he has tattoes and long hair. One night she randomly walked in our room and tried to get me to move out the guest room because he had his shirt off!She tried to force us to say grace. Normally we just say "1...2...3...GO!" and start eating. She continues to whine about the fact that I we are not married and share a room. When we shopped at the mall I bought some leather shoes for each of the girls and she moaned about how cruel it was. I have continued to-c-

she says "I am going to save your soul wether you like it or not" should I put her out or wait out the visit?

Answer 1

just put up with it she won't be there long tell her how you feel when she makes a comment. Tell her your trying and your not perfect its a process. its not going to kill you to say grace. She is also allowed to have an opinion, but trust me I have one of those aunts, put up with and just wait until she leaves to laugh over the stories with your fiancee.

Answer 2

Wait out the visit but do talk to her before she leaves and say: I know that you dont agree with the way I choose to live my life, but this is my home and I'm asking that next time you stay here you respect that or find another place to stay. You can add that she wouldnt want someone staying at her home that was gonna be disrespectful and put her down for every choice she makes and you feel the same. Its not a lot to ask.

Answer 3

Just flat out tell her that it's your house and you will live the way you want. If she's not going to be there much longer, try your best to ignore her. If it's going to be an extended stay, then you need to let her know that she is the guest and needs to stop trying to run your life. I am a christian also, but I don't go around trying to force people to change their ways or shove religion down their throats. Stand up for yourself and your family.

Answer 4

This can get tricky because like you said, you love your aunt, but at the same time, this is your family that she is criticizing. Whether you kick her out early or not is up to you and your boyfriend. I recommend talking to her first, let her know how much she means to you, but explain to her that whether she agrees with it or not, your boyfriend and his girls are your family too and she needs to respect that. Let her know that you may do things differently than she may like, but she needs to understand that it is not ok to say bad things about your boyfriend, or pressure you two into making any decisions about your future. It wouldn't hurt you to try and meet her half way though, just to keep her happy and see that you are willing to appreciate her views. Maybe let her say grace at the table, or ask her opinion on clothes for the girls, just to make her feel important and included and hopefully she will back off. But if you talk to her about it and she still doesn't respect your situation you might have to tell her to leave. She needs to know it's not acceptable for her to treat you all that way, and your family needs to know that you will stick up for them when people are being unreasonable. Best of luck with your aunt, hopefully she can see that families come in all shapes and sizes and there is not one perfect model that everyone should strive to live up to.

Answer 5

She is a lousy guest but a an aunt who you should listen to. She is looking at her precious niece getting wrapped up with a guy that was too old for her when they got together. He has already made crummy decisions for himself with getting a "crazy" girl pregnant and not sticking it out with her. Now your the one playing mommy to his kids. Under these circumstances, you really should have gotton married before you moved in together. As an adult, your aunt knows that these kinds of decisions lead to split homes more divorce and confusion. It's hard for you to see the big picture because you have not lived a long enough life to see how these senarios play out.
Don't you think your aunt loves you and wants what is best for you? What do you think her motivation is? I'll tell you she wants to see your life end up as good as it possibly can. So please listen to her.

Answer 6

You know I am sure that she thinks she is trying to do the right thing, but with family you have to let them know what is crossing the line, so that they dont continue to do it. She is your aunt, not your governess. Let her know how you feel, and let her know that if she can not abide by your roles in your own house, then she needs to go. Go on living your life the way you want to, just make decisions that you can live with. Best of luck, and I was going to ask, where are the twins' mom?

Answer 7

Unfortunately you are NOT a Christian. And sadly she cannot save you, no one can save you but Jesus Christ. -Amen

She should be setting an example, not meddling! But you should show respect to your elders, your boyfriend & yourself. None of you are living the way Christ wants... The word Christian translated means "mini-Christ". True Christians, accept Jesus Christ as thier Lord & savior, and chose to live as Christ did to set an example to unbelivers. Living together with out being married is a sin. God, punishes sin with eternal death. If you continue to live this way please stop calling yourself a Christian, because you will give all of us true Christains a bad name. If you want to explore the possibility of your salvation, please read your Bible, & pray that God finds mercy on your soul.

I am NOT judging you...I am telling you the truth, that God has layed out in His book! You are 18 & an adult, you can chose eternal life or death!

Answer 8

how long is she staying for? if its only a couple of weeks, grin and bear it - and make excuses about gong to hawaii or something next time she wants to visit. your home is YOUR home - no one - not even overbearing well meaning aunts should be in your private bedroom. if her visit is for a few months, i would be taking her aside, sitting her down, and talking to her. state firmly but graciously this is the way things are in your house, and the respect you demand from her or anyone else who enters through your door. if she will not accept it, thank her for visiting, and offer to take her immediately to purchase a return ticket home. no one needs this crud.

Answer 9

it depends.. how long is she staying for? If its too much longer i would tell her that its your house and you dont want to be mean but get out if she doesnt like it..hope this helps

Answer 10

She needs a Psychiatric Evaluation ASAP or maybe a good F**k.