My daughter is marrying a man that has not lived with his wife for many many years. I dont know why he never divorced but the first wedding date was cancelled because his divorce did not come thru in time, now 2months later, his divorce is again not finally and they are going to turn the reception into a commitment ceremony. I think that something is trying to tell them not to get married. My daughter has broken many hearts in the past and has always had a hard time telling the truth or being faithful. What are your thoughts. (she is in her late 30s he is in his early 40s)
2007-01-19 10:02:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would wait until he is divorced. It is the right thing to do. I'm sure a commitment ceremony would be lovely but why go to the expense? I would try to persuade my daughter to wait until he's divorced. If it's meant to be it will be.
Good luck!
2007-01-19 10:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by the_twenty_car 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a wedding reception without a wedding. He shouldn't have even gotten engaged before his divorce was final. His wife could make the divorce process miserable if she found out.
The best way to do this is to have a wedding that isn't legally verified. This is, I think, what you are calling a commitment ceremony. I am assuming your daughter wants a religious ceremony. In this case, have her speak to her clergy member of choice. They can be very understanding. If she would prefer a civil ceremony or the clergy member objects, ask a loved one to officiate, and the couple can write the ceremony. But have the ceremony in a different venue than the reception; I've never seen one-room weddings that were classy.
2007-01-19 10:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law, anyone who is still legally married cannot be bound to another individual in wedding matrimony, whether it is a wedding or commitment ceremony. It would seem redundant to have a commitment ceremony if he is still committed to someone else, even if he hasn't lived with that person for years. It's still on paper and that's what is binding.
Your daughter will need to wait until the divorce paperwork comes through before planning anything further. That's realistic and it's the law.
That's my thoughts and hope this helps.
2007-01-19 10:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... so she's been dating and now is engaged to a married man. Brilliant.
Sorry, but this is just asking for trouble all around. The fact that he has not followed through on a divorce in the years preceding seems to me that he has issues yet that he has not dealt with. Also, as far as divorces "going thorough," unless there are major problems (custody issues, alimony, whatever), the attorneys working with divorcing couples try to get it through as quickly as possible, and usually have a general idea of when the process should be complete. The fact that it is suddenly taking longer and longer than expected makes me think that there's more to the story -- possibly that he's not telling you something important.
Also, check with your state mandates -- in many states there is now a "waiting period" after a divorce in which you are not allowed to remarry.
2007-01-19 10:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
likely no longer as impolite as quite some the others, besides the undeniable fact that it quite disenchanted the bride and that i'd be very indignant if someone does this at my wedding ceremony. The ceremony became close relations in reality, so many of the travellers were only invited to the reception. the marriage became organised at very short word, so no longer precisely what the couple needed, yet they did a awesome job. besides, a guy that we artwork with became up section way by the reception in a t-blouse and ripped denims. He appeared like he'd only rolled away from mattress. He helped himself to some nutrition and a couple of loose beverages and then left. The bride became quite disenchanted and indignant by it, it truly is why it bothers me a lot.
2016-11-25 21:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to wait until the divorce is final before she gets married. Why is it taking so long. There is a form you can have your ex fill out that lets you get married without the waiting time being the 6 months. If it is longer than that...I would wonder why.
2007-01-19 10:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Patti F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely wait until he is divorced. If he really loves your daughter then what's the hold up with moving on and divorcing the other? The whole thing seems a little fishy.
2007-01-20 08:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by mills62584 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there should be no celebration, commitment ceremony, "wedding reception", etc. until both parties are legally free to marry.
2007-01-20 06:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i truely think the groom is holding on to his ex if he has seen your daughter for many years. Sounds to me like they should get some counseling before they make any serious commiments.
2007-01-19 10:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by tiggy198077 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
whats holding up the divorce???could be him. something to think about
2007-01-19 13:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋