am a lady, too but find that i always like to be seen with a good looking, stylish man.. one that resembles an NBA player, lol.. the guy i'm dating now is okay looking but doesn't care about fashion.. he has the money.. so why is it that he doesn't like to dress the part.. i on the hand love fashion and love to dress up.. he said people already stare at me.. so why should i draw more attention to myself.. i dress up for myself not people.. he even complains about me wearing perfum and says i should ton it down... apart from that he's caring and we spend a lot of time doing fun things... so, ladies am i being shallow?
2007-01-19 10:00:22 · 11 answers · asked by get outta here howdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me - both - personality and look. There has to be some attraction for you to be with the person - he doesn't have to be absolutely perfect; you know what I mean?
I can identify with your problem - I think we should take care of ourselves regardless of money or whatever. I don't want to be looking like a slob. As for my partner, he should be my reflection or at least look decent. This is a body of Christ and I'm going to try my best to be presentable physically and spiritually. Smile.
2007-01-19 10:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's already trying to control you. I have learned that a persons personality can make them attractive or it can make them outright ugly. I go for looks and personality. My boyfriend was not cute at all when I met him, but he is such a sweetie and now I find him cute. If you dress up for you, that's fine. There is nothing wrong with that. At the same time, just because he has money doesn't mean he has to flash it by wearing all kinds of fancy clothes. When people do that, that usually means they don't have it.
2007-01-19 10:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your ot being shallow, he is just "old fashion" from what you say. if you feel good about dressing up, then by god, DRESS UP!!! just because he has the money to look the part doesn't mean he has to, and if he didn't love you, then he wouldn't be with you. he may be afraid of losing you to some pretty boy or something...
2007-01-19 10:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by DSGG424 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regularly fall for the nature, although the seems do not damage both. i imagine maximum females fall for the jerks b/c they have a tendency to settle for far less and make exceptions because they sense as if they gained't locate absolutely everyone more effective perfect, so that they warfare to make it artwork with the fellow they have although in the experience that they don't seem to be thoroughly satisfied. believe me, i became once there. Now I have the guy of my aims. He helped me see that those different adult men weren't well worth my time and that he might want to manage me more effective perfect than all of them practice plus more effective.
2016-10-15 11:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to learn to love people for their differences. u r lucky he cares more than just about his looks. at least he isn't acting fake like most guys with money do. he probably dresses the way he does for comfort. u can really ask for more. ask yourself y u r not happy.
2007-01-19 10:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno, I hate girls that look at what i'm wearing and don't want to pursue the relationship even though I am attractive to a level. I have more than enough money to buy whatever I wanted whenever I wanted but why should I? Anyways, I dunno if it's shallow but you shouldn't really care if you don't mind people seeing him.
2007-01-19 10:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Louise r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little. If he wants to change you then hes not the right guy for you though. But hey, give him a chance.
2007-01-19 10:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personality. but on the othor hand i like to look good also and my man to also.
2007-01-19 10:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably telling you to tone it down because he can smell you a mile away.
2007-01-19 10:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like both and so should you
2007-01-19 10:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋