My gf and I have been together for 4 years. She is an EU member and does not have a greencard. It is becoming difficult for her to find a job and I am the one who pays the bills. If I move to Europe our situation would be reversed. I love the U.S, but I also love her and I am torn between moving to Europe to be with her or staying here by myself.
2007-01-19 09:55:41 · 10 answers · asked by brazlgirl 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
I think that before you decide to do anything permanent, you should visit for an extended period of time....like 6 months. You are probably a really caring, beautiful person so if the worst thing happened (you had to break up) then you will move on with your life, and so will your partner.
Moving is a HUGE thing to ask of someone, and moving to a different country is even more huge. Perhaps you can find a way for her to stay if she wants to stay here.
I think that if you are "torn" then you need to really study this situation deeply. Go to her country when she leaves, stay with her for six months.....if you are still "torn" then return to the USA to get some time apart and think it through.
You deserve the best....you should have someone who helps with the bills and finances AND you should be able to live where you want to.
Do not settle in life, you will regret it...you will end up resentful and mad at her. Better to have her move back, and then only commit to staying there for a few months to see if you really want to do it.
Just my thoughts.
Good luck!
2007-01-19 10:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by mantis_kung_fu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, it would be a great idea to move. Start thinking about it and preparing. I wish you both could stay but the US is being somewhat unfair in its practices for allowing folks in. I'm sure you've heard about the lottery for the number of people the US lets in from each country. Preposterous... Also I would try applying for other types of visas and just renewing those other kind over and over again - only if you and your girlfriend wanted to remain here rather than move overseas. Just a thought!
2007-01-19 10:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Elwanda B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG, go to Amsterdam. Well, maybe not exactly Amsterdam as it is a tourist city, but Ultrect would be great. You will LOVE Europe in general. My favorite city is Munich, but it is very pricey to live there, but worth it. You will never regret going.
2007-01-19 10:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i just spent 10 years in amsterdam.it is EXTREMELY difficult for a us citizen to get a verblijfsvergunning (resident visa). they make it so difficult that most people run out of money and give up.try the uk.
2007-01-19 10:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah move to Amsterdam.
2007-01-19 10:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by BRITS OUT 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yup, go to Europe.
2007-01-19 10:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by rbarc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it would be tough, but they are more tolerant over there. They even celebrate homosexuality. Not so much here.
2007-01-19 10:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by WJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes & Bye!
If she can not get a green card there must be a good reason as everyone & their brother can get a green card these days.
2007-01-19 10:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave.
2007-01-19 10:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move to europe
easyer to get pappers
2007-01-19 10:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by oyisofirewalker 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋