Grandparents House?

Question

My grandparents passed away and left me their small home to sell, so my family wouldn't have to struggle financially. I love them for that. My problem is that my grandpa was married to someone else 50 years ago and had children. They are angry at me because he didn't leave them anything. I never met them until the funeral, and besides, it was my grandma's will too. How do I handle the anger they have.

Answer 1

The will represents your Grandpa's thoughts and wishes for the use of the home he left behind. It is as valid as if he were standing in front of you and telling you himself. Do not disrespect his wishes. His other family is where he put them, in his past. For whatever reason, he chose to start again and in no way should you undermine his desires by trying to go back and deal with a situation that does not concern you. Do not address any issues with them at all. They only need to know that his wishes are being respected and that is all you are concerned with. God Bless Your Grandpa for loving you so much!

Answer 2

Since your grandparents left you the house, they obviously wanted you to have it. You don't owe them anything --not an explanation, not an apology, not a penny.

Were these people a part of your grandfather's life in the past 20 or 30 years, or did they just show up hoping to gain something from his death?

If they were a part of his life recently -or on a regular basis thru the years - then perhaps they would like a keepsake from the house to remember him by.

If they just showed up hoping to benefit from his death, then they deserve absolutely nothing.

You might ask a lawyer if they have any claim, but I am guessing that the will is the final word.

If they are trying to "guilt " you into giving them money, tell them that if your grandfather had wanted them to have it, he would have said so.

You don't have to talk to them if you don't want to.

Answer 3

Do your best to be kind to them. They lost a person close to them too.

About the house, if its in the will for you to do it, you need to do it. However, if the other relatives feel left out, perhaps you can include them in helping you sell the house.

Its not your fault that your grandfather didn't leave them anything so don't feel guilty. They, too are feeling sad and their anger at you may fade with time. Try not to be condesending. Tell them you feel bad that things didn't turn out the way they wanted, but your grandpartents executed their will in the way they wanted.

Remember, you don't need to be their loving long-lost relative , but you should be curteous and respectful. There is nothing worse than tarnishing a loved one's memory by fighting within the family. Do you best to prevent that and if they get out of hand, remind them of that too.

Answer 4

This is NOT your fault -- and your Grandfather AND Grandmother were of sound mind and it was of their own free will that they made out the will with the property left the way you have stated above.

So at this time, yes, tell them you are sorry for their loss, but there is nothing else to say.

Answer 5

Just tell them that you are sorry for there loss to but you have no control over the will. If you would like you could offer to get to know them. If they refuse then ask God to watch over them and let them be angry.

Answer 6

The best thing to do is to follow the directions of the will. It was your grand parents last formal request and should be honored. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Dont do anything... its not your problem. How do you even know if they are telling the truth?? Its too late.

Answer 8

If they did not have anything to do with them - then they have no right to anything - if they did visit then be polite - but it was your grandmother also and not theirs'!@!~