How can I let go?

Question

Hi. I have a type of autism.One big problem I have is obsessions. Sometimes it is so great that I feel like I'm fighting the world - and losing.

For example the univeristy where I go to has it's own support for students who are finished to find work. What am I told? That they are not quailified to help people with handicaps. This is a group that has a network of companies that may want to employ people who have finished univeristy.- but abviously not for someone with a handicap. - I hate the letters going back and forth to these people. I've asked for help from others councelors at the univeriity- Averyone knows each other there - and thus everyone is againt me.
It's like fighting a monster. Aimlessly I hang up posters showing my vew. -This is all I can do- in the end I lose.

And recently I have a similar situation after a conflict with a sports-accomodation. Having opinions different from organistations is dangerous and scarry. -I'm tired. -help me

Answer 1

I'm guessing the people who are supposed to help you are not evil or anything. Probably just overworked and micromanaged to the point of just putting in time to get their paychecks.

They probably just don't care about you, as opposed to hating you or anything like that.

Find what works for you to make a good life, then do more of that.

Maybe its getting money, maybe just staying in bed.

Answer 2

Handicap?? Hardly!!! I'm so sorry that you have to fight the ignorance of people at a university level. This is actually a form of discrimination, by not "allowing" you the assistance to complete your degree they are in turn discriminating against you because of your autism.

Talk to support groups outside of the university and see what help they can offer. Speak to Autism associations in your area and ask for their help.

And just think, as you fight for the rights for education for all, those people following you into university life with Autism will have the benefit of your hard work and perseverance. Keep strong, keep up the fight and know that your standing on truth.

Good luck

Answer 3

Their actions are discriminatory. Check with a local attorney or the ACLU or research the Americans with Disabilities Act. Also look into your state's vocational rehabilitation office whose job it is to assist people with various disabilities in finding employment.

Provided you can perform required tasks with resonable accomodation (if accomodations are needed), law requires you be considered equally along with other qualified applicants. I can't imagine that a public college wouldn't fit under the same guidelines in assisting you with finding employment. Private colleges may be a whole other ball game.

Hope this helps. Good luck and don't give up. I've seem many a person about to call it quits, just before landing their dream job.

I find it funny that a college that found you good enough to tak eyour money doesn't feel you're good enough to help find a job using the education you paid them for.

Another option would be to shout to the world the name of the college and their discrimanatory actions.

Answer 4

How dare they tell you that you are handicapped! You have a condition that is becoming more commonly diagnosed as a learning disorder.
I'm sure you have had to overcome many obstacles over the years.This is another obstacle for you, but you are not alone. I suggest that you take on this challenge, and use it to make you a better person than the ignorant counsellors who obviously don't know how to do their job properly.
I'm very proud to say that my Son has autism and is doing well, as I see it. I tell him that it is ok to be different, look at Einstein, Mozart, etc.
I suggest you get a Curiculum Vitae and apply for jobs on your own. This is what I did and I'm not perfect either. Who is?
To me, you're a winner!
Oh, and consider writing down your experiences, maybe one day publish it to help the many other people with learning disabilities.

Answer 5

I'm also having problems letting go, but not in the same area. It's with grown kids. But the principle is the same. "Letting go" is an act of patience, something I have a problem with. On a T-shirt I read one time, "God give me patience, but hurry up." I laughed when I read this, but it is so true! Sometimes, instead of waiting on God to help us, we go it alone! Then we wonder why we lack patience, a quality of God's spirit.
What have I done? I have done other things to take my mind off of the problem; moved onto something else; with you, like looking for your own job, instead of waiting on someone else to find you a job! Most of the working class doesn't have the option of someone finding us a job, so we look for our own job.
If you have gone and graduated from an university, then you have the ability to find your own job. My hat goes off to you! With the problem of a handicapp, and you still went and got an education, and you are wanting to go to work, that is remarkable. Pat yourself on your back! You deserve that! But look for your own job. I've given this illustration before on here, but; If you give someone a match, and they go into a dark room, and don't light the match, then cries that they are afraid of the dark; do you have much sympathy for them if they don't light the match?

Answer 6

You don't sound like any "loser" to me! The losers of this world don't want an education and surely don't want a job of any description! You have already done all that is in (only) your power to do. You are getting your education and are in search of a job. You do NOT give up! There is always someone somewhere who will believe in you and give you the opportunity that you are so deserving of. I do wish you all the best... and you hang in there..!

Answer 7

turn to a different direction
forget (and forgive, if you should)
find understanding people who will listin to what YOU have to say

remember:: if the fabric won't work with you, don't work with it.

Answer 8

just keep on asking!

Answer 9

There is only one way to let go... and that is to let go.