when he gets angry or fruastrated he decides to bang his head on the wall, or even throw himself to the floor. you can hear it too when he does that. it worries me alot. i am afriad that he is going to get brain damage to the head before he is older enough to go to school. i don't know what to do....... The doctor said its normal but i think its not. this is very serious! i need some help here about this situation. so please someone answer my question?
2007-01-19 09:34:05 · 30 answers · asked by Nascar Momma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well alot of you had said to ignore it. so i'll do that. but to let you all know when he does this he gets these mad bruises on his forehead from it. one time it was sooo bad it looked like he was in a boxing match!
that is when he went to the doctors and i told the doctor about it. the doc said the same thing that its normal. my mom had told me that i had done the same thing when i was little, and she said it had gotten bad to the point where she had to take me to another professional and that person said to my mom that i am bipolar, and that she is going to have a hard time raising me.
maybe my son has something like that. i have a three yr old daughter that is about four. she used to do the same but she didn't do as much as her brother is doing.
that's why it has worried me. he seems to be alot more bruised up then kayla has, and still. my daughter doens't even get bruises anymore, and i think its because she knows better. lol this is just CRAZY!
2007-01-19 10:15:22 · update #1
Your child is banging his head in anger and frustration and he knows this upsets you so indirectly its a form of attention. I have seen this before and a child knows the limits when getting hurt by this. I sure before long he will outgrow this but its a worry im sure when this happens try to ignore it. Best of luck
2007-01-20 11:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mary l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son, who is now 5, did the same thing between the ages of 1 and 2. At the time, I had just gotten remarried, and relocated to a different state. He used to do it so hard, his face would bleed. He had a few delays, so the they checked him for autism, which is sometimes the cause of head banging. They said it may had been stress induced. He eventually grew out of it. He recently was diagnosed with ADHD, and does have some anger issues, but no obvious brain damage from hitting his head.
2007-01-19 09:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 12, a step brother of 2 was added to our family. He used to throw himself on the floor and bang his head whilst occasionally looking up at people for their reaction. The first and last time he tried that when my other brother (10 yrs. old) were alone with him and he wasn't getting his way, we laughed. I know that is hard for an adult but we were 10 and 12 and really didn't like the bratty kid too much, so there he was hurting himself and we thought is was funny. We encouraged him to do it more by saying "hit it harder" and then eventually got bored of it and left the room. He never did it again to us and eventually stopped it with everyone else.
It worked but honestly I don't know if I could do it now that I am an adult. I would be scared of them hurting themselves even though my Mom still says that they won't really hurt themselves.
2007-01-19 10:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Not Laughing w/ U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this is totally normal. He wants something and this gets a response from you. It will stop in time when he realizes it hurts him more than you. I would just keep explaining to him that when he is upset he need to use his words so that you can help him and when he does lots of praise. Or if he is already throwing a head banging fit gently pick him up and set him on his bed a`nd stay with him until he is calm then get him to say what is wrong. keep encouraging him with his words as that will help the situation the most.
2007-01-19 09:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son who is now 6 used to do the exact same thing. It didn't matter to him whether it was the hardwood floors, concrete porch etc he would bang his head off of it until he was tired of doing so. This doesn't mean he is going to grow up stupid like one person has said, my 6 year old who is in 1st grade now reads at a 3-4th grade levels. Don't worry he will grow out of it. Promise
2007-01-19 09:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by alilkntrygal27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's having a temper tantrum and sounds like he is very good at it. Once you start walking away and ignoring him he'll ease up or stop. I imagine he is getting lots of attention doing this , it's called negative, He'll be fine.
Wait until he hits the terrible two's!!!!!!! When he's a teenager you'll be wishing, at times, that you could bang his head on a wall. Enjoy him and try not to worry too much, trust your Dr.
2007-01-19 09:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard to watch.... harmless to your Son. My 11 year old son had a bruise on his forehead till he was 4... If it makes you feel better, try putting one of those toddler helmets on him. I am shocked that a doctor told your Mother that you were Bi-polar because you were banging your head on the floor as a toddler....... it is called a temper tantrum and they know it bugs you.
I hope you rest well knowing this behavior is completely normal.
2007-01-19 10:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did it too and he did grow out of it probably just over two. But I understand it is very worrying. A book that really helped me was "Toddler taming" by Dr Christopher Green. Also reading his description of a normal toddler made me realize how good my little boy was the rest of the time.
2007-01-19 09:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by tangerine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter does the same thing as ur son it is a tantrum i know it is hard to ignore it i get so worried when my daughter does it but its a no win situation if u try stop kids they do it more and leave them to it u feel bad but kids heads are made of stronger stuff then we all think ! so the best u can do is try not worry about it but as his mother u will automaticaly know when he is in danger so trust your instincts good luck
2007-01-19 14:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal - this is a tantrum - your child is acting out to get what he wants. The best course of action is to ignore this behavior but at the same time try to make sure he doesn't harm himself.
If you ignore this type of behavior and reward the good behavior it shouldn't take too long for your child to decide to try a different course of action.
2007-01-19 09:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by bravokardia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋