How to improve my self-esteem?

Question

In school having a horrible days and being ignored, ridiculed or teased.

Answer 1

How can you improve your self-esteem?

You can begin by accepting that you are certainly not alone. Masses of people have this problem.

Secondly, you can take on board a very important fact, which is that you are a wonderful, individual and special person - and there is no one quite like you. Your fingerprints and your DNA are totally different from everybody else's - unless you happen to have an identical twin. And your mind - and how it thinks and operates - is absolutely your own. This means that out of six billion people in the world, you are a one-off. So if nature has bothered to make you utterly unique, don't you feel that you should accept that you're important, and that you have as much right as anyone else to be on this planet?

You have other rights too. One of them is the right to make mistakes. Don't forget that 'to err is human' and most of us do much of our learning through getting things wrong before we get them right.

Furthermore, we have the right to respect ourselves - and to be respected: this is very important. And finally - and perhaps most vitally of all - we have the right to say 'yes' or 'no' for ourselves.

Many people with poor self-esteem think that they're not very important and that their views carry no weight. Is this you? If so, try to stop these destructive thoughts; because if you go around believing them, you'll encourage other people to believe them too.

Instead, start thinking of yourself - with your individual DNA, fingerprints and mind - as someone who has rights and opinions and ideas that are just as valid as anyone else's. This will help you to improve your 'self-estimation'.

Techniques to improve self-esteem


10-minute technique

People with poor self-esteem often fail to give themselves enough time and space. So find 10 minutes every day to be alone and to just sit and do nothing. Some people find it helpful to close their eyes and imagine a country scene or the sight and sound of waves gently lapping against the seashore. During this 10 minutes, allow yourself to feel peaceful and happy. Enjoy this time. It is yours - and yours alone. And you deserve it.

Finding 10 minutes for you is a caring thing to do and you will feel better for doing it.


Accentuate the positive

Often we make ourselves unhappy because we go over and over mistakes that we have made. But we can feel happier, and improve our self-esteem, if we re-think those things we believe we have done wrong or badly.

For example, one of my clients has to give presentations at work. He used to mentally beat himself up after every one. He would go over and over tiny errors in his mind. Now he writes an account of each presentation shortly after he' s given it. And I have encouraged him to write about all the things that went well - not badly. He doesn't need to write about the bad things - they will stick in his memory and he will try hard not to repeat them. But he will forget the good things - unless he writes them down.

So when you have a bad day, or something goes wrong in your relationship or at work, write an account of what went right with that episode, not what went wrong. The results will surprise you - and improve how you see yourself.

Answer 2

The library is full of books on this subject. You'd be helping youself to check them out, and read them. Positive affirmations are written in books, and have helped many people to overcome problems with low self-esteem.

Get into meditation, physical fitness programs, and your studies. Doing well in any of the above will help to raise your self-esteem and confidence.

Being ignored and ridiculed--WHY? Have you done something to provoke people to treat you this way? I don't know what you mean by "leased," but it doesn't sound like a good thing.

Get new interests, hobbies, extracurricular activities etc., and you will meet new people--people with interests similar to yours.

I hope things get better for you very soon.

Answer 3

It sounds like youre pretty lonely, and hurting as a result. I want you to know that there are many other students who are feeling the way you are, due to stress and loneliness.
At school, I was bullied and treated badly, I never felt accepted and hated being there, even though I was a good student. I had to get my mind around it, in order to keep going back.
Here's what I found;
1. We are blessed to be able to go to school as many countries are too disadvantaged to allow this.
2. School education ultimately broadens our options when we want to work, giving us better jobs instead of having to go into "sweat shops" (mass production factories), like in Indonesia.
3. You are at school for you, feed your intelligence like a hungry child, ignore negatives and accept the positive experiences.
4. Watch and listen, and remember to respect yourself and protect yourself from people who are clearly less education-focused as you.
5. Remember, it's ok to be different.(look at Einstein, Mozart,etc)

Answer 4

Work out, get in shape, look good. Unfortunately, this is really the only thing this superficial, shallow society understands.

Answer 5

Tell urself ur hot! Even if u don't bleive it eventually u will. and tell other people ur hot. make conversation and tell other ppl their hot.