my friend is 15 and she is "talking" to this 24 year old guy. he is a bum, and used to live by her, now he moved, but they still talk. he seems nice the way she talks about him, but i hear he has been in trouble with the law many times, i don't know what to do, i hear about him everyday from her! is this sound bad?
2007-01-19 09:28:18 · 25 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no reason for a 15 year-old girl to even be friends with a 24 year-old guy! Yes, you should be worried.
That being said, I don't think that there is much you can do about it.
You can tell her that you are worried... remind her that he has been in trouble with the law and hope that she listens to you. This situation is nothing but trouble, if she won't listen then you should talk to this girls parents. Go to them and make sure that they will not tell her that you are the one that told.
There is only one thing a man of that age could want from a young girl, even if your friend doesn't think that is what he is after.
If you don't feel comfortable telling this girls parents them maybe an anonymous call to his parole officer might work, I am sure that he has one if he has been in that much trouble with the law.
Those are extreme ideas, I would only do this if you feel your friend is in danger and she will not listen to you (real danger being, is thinking of having sex with his man or you feel the man may be planning on getting it from her one way or the other), the only thing that you can really do other than that is to be there for her.
I would also like to add that a 24 year-old having sexual relations with a 15 year-old is not statutory rape... it is child abuse/molestation and he will be prosecuted as such! This is a bad situation!
2007-01-19 09:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes this guy then she isn't going to stop talking to him just cause you feel leery of him. I know you care, but the only thing you can do is listen and if you really don't; want to hear about it, then tell her. Be honest with her and tell her how you feel about the guy. If the guy is really and truly not good for her , then let someone in her family know. Hopefully she has parents that would too be concerned. Not always good to butt in, but if it will save her from making a bad mistake then you will have done a good thing.
2007-01-19 17:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by alymarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you should be worried. Ask you friend what a 24 year old grown man would see in a 15 year old girl aside from sex. They have nothing in common aside from that one thing. He's a loser. Tell her so. He might be act nice but you really have to question a guy that is hanging out with an underage girl. Just tell her your straight up opinion of this guy and tell her think it's creepy...it is really.
2007-01-19 17:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in talking. As long as she doesn't fall for him. He's WAY too old for her. He obviously has nothing going on in his life if he's spending his time with a 15 year old. Tell her your just looking out for her and that she needs to be careful around him. Sounds like trouble to me though. But honestly she probably won't listen to you, so just becareful what you say. You should listen to what she says about him...keep tabs on her. Just in case of anything horrible happening. He could be a total creep.
2007-01-19 17:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is she wasting her time with him, when she should be focusing on her school work, that kind of guy is nothing but trouble, he just looking to get into her pants and then he off like a dirty shirt. Ask her why is she talking to a 24 who shows no responsibilty for his own life. A guy like is Trouble I would let her parents know.
2007-01-19 17:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if he was the mayor of your city, if he's 24 and she's 15 what the hell is he doing talking to her?! And that you're describing him as a loser makes it doubly bad. Tell your friend that you're worried because this guy seems like bad news. Keep your eye on her and don't hesitate to tell your parents and HER parents if it feels at all weird to you.
2007-01-19 17:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any 24 year old man thats talking to a 15 year old girl, is not looking to just "be friends", if shes not going to listen to her friends when they try to help her stay away from this creep, then you may need to go to her parents and talk to them about it. They may need to threaten to charge the 24 year old with statutory rape if he goes anywhere near their daughter. But definitly try and get her away from him though, he's only going to hurt her and get into trouble!
2007-01-19 17:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by West_End_Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very especially because of the age difference. Many teens (i am one too, im 13) run into a lot of trouble on the internet with people like this. We have assemblies on it like every month. Try to keep your freind from meeting this "bum". Good luck!
2007-01-19 17:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by bostonurmyhom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is too young to be seeing a guy 24. He is only interested in sex. That would be all they have in common. Ever hear the song Hey 19?
2007-01-19 17:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly45 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There might problems but, maybe he has turned himself around.
This is a hard one to say but at 24 he shouldn't be looking to get with a 15 year old.
Good Luck
2007-01-19 17:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋