my boyfreind never shows me love or affection if i go to kiss him he kisses me like a friend would an turn away, the only time he shows me affection is during sex we have been together 11 years an have 2 daughters he does nothing 4 me and does not help around the house an never says anything nice about me, i am losing all my confiedence an i used 2 be so out going i love him but dont think he will ever change am i wasting my life.?
2007-01-19 09:24:29 · 18 answers · asked by lizjess2000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in a similiar situation myself but mine mainly keeps letting me down. I think it might be an idea if you sit down and talk to you're boyfriend about how you're feeling, only then can you start to make changes. He probably doesn't even realise he's making you feel this way.
2007-01-19 11:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by charlie_k21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huni,have the guts to walk away before he does,i had the same problem became so unconfident,no self esteem and felt truly worthless and my ex walked out on me and our son for the 2nd time 2 weeks ago,We had became more like friends than lovers and i always felt like cr@p,never thought i was good enough for him and he didn`t help me feel good about myself ever.
I thought i needed him to be happy,but now that he`s gone for the 2nd time i realise i`m happier without him in my life,i`m working on the confidence and trying to become my old happy self again.
If you think there`s nothing worth saving then walk away,but if you do still have feelings and cant imagine your life without your bf in it then sit down and have a serious talk about how your feeling and let him know how unhappy you are at the moment and you want things to change,11 years is a long time and i suppose every relationship gets a bit stale after a certain amount of time,mines was after 6 years,Try going out on dates again,have a bath together just to try and get the romance back,goodluck,xx
2007-01-19 09:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His actions are crushing your spirit babe, sounds like he's draining you as you are losing your confidence. Soon you won't know who are you. Can you tell him how you feel? Has he always been like this? Or is it just recently? If you have already said how you feel and he hasn't changed then it would he doesn't care. In that case you would be better alone, it might be painful at first but you'll get a whole new sense of freedom and gain your confidence and self respect back. Surely thats more valuable? x
2007-01-19 09:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stay if you are not happy
I wasted 10 years on 2 very violent men,
I have been single for a year and i've never been so happy, healthy and positive,
I have never believed in myself so much,
I'm even studying law,
I'm also raising 3 children, the youngest is 18 months old.
There are so many wonderful people out there,
Find out who you are.
best wishes
2007-01-19 09:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men behave like this deliberately, as a way of control.
If you have no confidence then your not likely to play away or leave them. They undermine and ignore, so you start to think that no other men would be attracted to you.
Get out while you still have some confidence left.
2007-01-20 06:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are if he can't see what he is missing out on then you need to move on and find someone to make you feel loved and get some affection because I know for a fact you have to have affection or what do you really have?? Good luck and Muha!
2007-01-19 09:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by bootylicious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think its great that uve realised... ur wasting ur time
its time for u to take control and not try to go back to being who u were,just try and find urself again!
:)
i wudnt stay with him... a relationship is about bringin out the best in each other and he isnt doin that
maybe u guys shud get some counsellin otherwise if ur sure u want out - do it! :)
2007-01-19 10:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by YabbaJabba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont change, sorry face reality before its too late. In my opinion u should leave and start a new life with ur kids. Otherwise u will all regret it and life is too short.
2007-01-19 09:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by michee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this,but I have read all the answers and I agree just go, hope everything works out for you,and beleive me it will,goodluck pal be strong
2007-01-19 09:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 kids with him..so something good has come out of it.but if hes doing nothing.then leave him.i dont buy this crap of 'for the kids'.yeah kids need parents i admit that.but they would be happier with out hassle.children feel more then we care to admit.leave him.
(i have no self confidence myself,so i would stay.i hate being alone)
2007-01-19 09:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by astro_4_aires 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋