Q.1 What would be your opinion of a woman that has three children to three different fathers?
Q.2 What is your opinion of a pregnant woman that allows her partner to believe he is the father of her unborn child, when the father is some else?
2007-01-19 09:23:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Q1. Well it would depend upon a few things.
1. How close in age are the children?
If they're within a few years, let's face it, she has commitment issues. She's probably insecure and uses her body to win affection.
2. Does she care for them and give them the love they need?
Single parenting is no cakewalk. With three kids I can only imagine it would be a nightmare. It's very unfair to the children to live in a household without a stable father figure.
3. What were the cicumstances of her previous relationships?
Was she simply a tramp? Or did she sincerely try to have a real relationship with each person? Did she give each relationship the seriousness it required?
Three children with three different fathers is not going to reflect on you very well to most men. If you behave respectably and focus the appropriate attention on your children, some people might give you a second chance.
2007-01-19 09:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Q2. That woman is a horrible person. She has no right to deny her child his real father. It's very cruel all the way around. Can you imagine if men could do this to women, let them think a child was there's when it wasn't or not tell the woman she had a child. If that could happen it would be an outrage. For some reason people don't think it's as bad when a woman does it.
2007-01-19 17:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q2. I think it's unfair of her to deny the real father of the option to know his child. Regarding the partner who's taking on the role of father...I honestly believe this is a gift to the partner, so I have a little trouble being upset on his behalf. If he can live the rest of his life believing that it's his child, he'll simply be like all the other dads on the planet, and have a wonderful kid to love. <3
If I'm allowed, I'll comment on Q1 as well...She's a ho. She has no sense of responsibility to her children, or else she'd know that she needs to provide a stable family environment for her kids (even if that means being a single mother). Bouncing from guy to guy makes for an uncertain situation, and kids thrive on certainty!
2007-01-19 17:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question 2 I think that she is horrible. If she knows that the baby might not be the man that she is with she should tell him. The man would have to feel awful if later on he thought that he had a child then found out that it wasn't his.
It's a shame but a lot of women don't tell there husbands or boyfriends until the child and man get attached to each other and the child suffers.
2007-01-19 18:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in no position to judge this "women" but in response to Q2: dont ever lie about who the father is. Not only will you be found out at some point but whenever that does happen it will not only affect the men but your child as well. if the father is someone who realy shouldnt be in the childs life then you can make the decision as to weather youll tell hm or not but dont lead someone else tobelieve that its theirs when its not.
2007-01-19 17:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that comes to mind is irresponsible! Perhaps this woman should think about what she is doing before she does it. And then to lie and continue to push off responsibility is sad. What kind of woman would do this to someone she is supposed to love and care for. What kind of mother will she be? I can't see her teaching morals and values. Very sad indeed.
2007-01-19 18:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by fairychic77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. it can happen, as long as those children were born in love and parents wanted them to be born...i don't see anything wrong with that. But personally i woulnd't want my all children to have diff fathers, but.... never say never.
2. that's SO wrong, but what if he knows that it's not his but he wants that baby as much as she is, that's why he allows her to think so and they are both happy. But still they should talk about it, unless there is some "special" situation around it.
good luck
2007-01-19 17:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by yuliyasa2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q1- no special opinion. As long as the kids are loved and taken care of, I don't care. I know plenty of women who remarried and had another child in their second or third marriage, so it's not that unusual
Q2- She is a sleaze and he should dump her ASAP
2007-01-19 17:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q1-That actually depends on the children's ages. If they are five years apart, maybe it is forgivable, but I would question it if it was myself. I would think maybe she should put a quarter between her legs and not let it fall to the ground when she gets near a man.
2007-01-19 18:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by HAGAR!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation. but what you also have to consider is someday the "father" will eventually find out that hes not the dad. and that will hurt him. so you need to be honest. its going to hurt you, the "father" and your child in the long run if you lie. good luck to you.i hope it all works out.
2007-01-19 17:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by jrs wife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋