Ok... So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about seven months now. We live about 200 miles apart and I don't get to see him that often. Normally, I get to spend the summer with him and then see him over Christmas break and during Spring break. This year, he's thinking of joining the track team, but to do that, he has to stay at his house over Spring break. Part of me wants to tell him that I hate the idea and part of me wants to just let him stay there. I mean, I want him to get to do the things that he wants, but if he doesn't come in, I won't get to see him until June and I don't know if I can wait that long to see him again. Any advice or do I just sound selfish?
2007-01-19 09:19:09 · 13 answers · asked by LaRIssA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him do what he wants. I promise you'll live. (He'll probably appreciate that you have enough confidence in your relationship to let him do what he wants)
2007-01-19 09:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's a bit selfish, yes, but understandable. Even couples who've been married a long time face issues like this sometimes. So what about YOU going to his house over spring break instead of him coming to you? Then at least you'd get to see him part of the time, while he gets to participate in track - a good compromise for both of you.
2007-01-19 17:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cameron is absolutely right if you don't let him do what he wants it will put up the red flags that you are one of those control type girls.
Dez has a point, if you want to see him and can, talk to him about visiting. Don't just show up on his door step though; make plans with him if it is okay with him.
2007-01-19 17:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound pretty young....high school most likely...possibly a freshman...anyhow, it's natural that a girl wants to be her man's main priority. i had a boyfriend who put me at priority number five on his list, right below coaching a high school football team....needless to say, we are no longer together. you need to talk to him about your concerns and how it makes you feel. long distance relationships are hard....and even harder if the other person isn't going to be making an effort to make the relationship work. talk to him about it and try to compromise...if you still feel like his track team is more important to him than you are, you need to move on and find someone else. a woman deserves to be number one in a man's life and no sport should put above her.
2007-01-19 17:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see him during Spring Break if he means so much to you. He needs to do what makes him happy and if you cant handle that...date someone that lives near you.
2007-01-19 17:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are selfish at all, you just miss him,love him.A relation like this would be hard,i don't think i would have lasted 7mths.Distance is just a *****.Maybe you can make weekend plans to see him.i am sure there is someway you can go see him before spring break is over.He should be willing to let u see him before his track team starts up.Good luck
2007-01-19 17:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by alientwilight21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to try to have a long distance relationship then you need to keep your feelings at a distance. This type of relationship is not a relationship at all. I know you don't want to hear it, but this type of relationship will cause you more grief than good. See him when you see him, but don't put your life on hold. Live your life and if that means seeing someone who lives closer then do it.
2007-01-19 17:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by The Dr 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thats just how long distance relationships are. You have to let him do what he wants to do. It would be selfish to tell him to come see you instead of doing track.
2007-01-19 17:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's going to do what he wants to do. Long distance relationships rarely last. If it means so much toyou, why don't you go to his house over spring break?
2007-01-19 17:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him join...but go visit him?? Either way, I think it is, not so much 'selfish' but not a good idea to make him choose between something he wants to do with his mates [& with his life] & you...it may end badly, & you don't need to conflict with your boy over something so trivial!
2007-01-19 17:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋