I am a private person, and so is my guy, and we feel that the wedding is sacred, and there are people we arent going to want there at the church but know we should invite them to at least the reception, is that ok? We both have large enough families to have nearly 100 people at the church, but for the sake of some of the guests we are willing to allow these people to go to the reception where we wont have to mingle with them the entire night. I know a lot of people who would probably just show up to the reception anyways. How would you word that on invitation?
2007-01-19 09:17:52 · 15 answers · asked by overwhelmed85 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is totally acceptable. I agree that the ceremony is a sacred thing. The reception is the celebration where all can gather.
I'd word it something like this:
Darla Johnson and Samuel Hall will be joined in wedded matrimony during a private ceremony. They request the honor of your attendance at the celebration reception on...(then put the date, time and location.) OR...They would be honored if you would join them in celebration at the reception...then list info.
Of course, those who will be invited to the wedding ceremony should receive a differently worded invitation.
By the way, congratulations!
2007-01-19 09:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by hope03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it is! i think its great that you're keeping the ceremony to the people you love the most.. it will be a lot more emotional :)
in the invitation you could say something along the lines of:
'we have chosen for only close family to be present at the ceremony but we would like to invite you to the reception where we will be celebrating'
the idea that you're celebrating at the reception will hopefully help them see how they are not missing out on anything :)
have a lovely wedding and enjoy the rest of your lives together x
2007-01-19 10:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Lots of people do this. Just send out wedding announcements to those you want at only the reception, and include an invitation with where and when to the reception only.
2007-01-19 09:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever makes you comfortable. It's your day don't worry about offending anyone.
The best wedding I have ever been too, we were invited to an engagement party. When we got there we were told that the happy couple were running late. Then they said while we were waiting they would show us a DVD of both of the couple growing up, and started off with baby photos and worked up. Towards the end you saw them in wedding clothes, then you saw photos of there ceremony. Then the newly weds walked in in wedding dress suit etc. It put everyone in the most suprised happy mood. It was fuss free, but they still got what was important to them. The bride got her dream dress, they had their quiet ceremony, then got to celebrate with friends, and because it was only a "party" they didn't have the expense of an expensive reception.
2007-01-19 10:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many people do this, Many people would rather just go to the reception. Here is an idea, set up a tv and loop the wedding video, that way anyone at anytime at the reception can watch it.
2007-01-19 10:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's perfectly alright and normal. You can do separate invitations or another popular thing I've seen done is a smaller insert that requests attendance to the actual ceremony...so you'd have the main invitation to the reception for everyone and just put inserts for the ceremony in for family.
2007-01-19 09:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding! Anybody who knows you well enough will understand your wishes. I would sent out two sets of invitations. One for wedding guest and one for the reception. Like I said, anyone who knows you will understand and want to be there to support you however they can.
Congrats and Good Luck1 ;)
2007-01-19 09:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to have two invites. One inviting the guests to the wedding AND reception.
The other one inviting guest to join you at the reception after a private ceremony.
Here's one example
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the pleasure of your company
at a (dinner) reception in honour of
Mr. and Mrs. Your Married Name
Day, the date of Month
at time o'clock (in the afternoon/evening)
Location Name
City, State
2007-01-19 09:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
absolutely.. and the fact that you know what you want is just awesome...
well since you are just having family there you will have to have ian invitation for them so they know to come, and usually everyone else you just send rsvps for the reception..
and just put that you hope they will join you in your celebration of marriage at this reception place
2007-01-19 09:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by sm81206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, people do this all the time....send wedding invitations to the family memebers you actually want at the wedding and for the others just send a "wedding announcement" type card that mentions the wedding but on give date/time/location for the reception.
and congrats on your upcoming marriage.
2007-01-19 09:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by KELLI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋