There's this girl at my high school that I've had a crush on for a while, and when I finally asked her out yesterday, she said no. She said that she had just gotten out of a three month relationship with a guy and wasn't ready to get back into another one. A reasonable reason not to go out with someone. But then today, in our health class, we were talking about why people fear rejection when they try to start a new relationship. Almost like a scene from a movie, this girl and I ended up being the only two answering the question, like we were talking to each other indirectly. Her answer was something along the lines of: "They're afraid of starting a new relationship becuase they are scared of what the outcome might be." Should I take this as meaning anything or is it just pure coincidence? And if it does mean anything, could that be a reflection of how she feels towards me and that maybe I should try asking her out again or something?
2007-01-19 09:15:41 · 11 answers · asked by wildwildmars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be her friend first. She may not have intentionally been answering the question to get your attention but it is true many people don't want to jump back into a fire for fear of getting burned.
Someone said becoming a friend is never a good thing but I disagree. I have heard of so many relationships of people who were friends first and then started dating and were together for years and years once they got together. If you all don't spend any time outside of school together then try to make sure you go to anything she is at so you can really get to know her better. Maybe even invite her to a group event. If a bunch of people are going to a movie or some place, get someone else to ask her along. You all need to know each other better and then you will truly know if she is for you.
Don't rush it if it was meant to happen it will happen.
2007-01-19 09:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time to be a lone; be a friend; it will get you further in the long run. I get irritated when i'm constantly asked out by the same person over and over again when i've told them i'm not ready to date. Its a turn off. try talking to her about every day type things and let her get to know you; she may be ready for dating later on down the line and less afraid of the outcome. and if you don't wind up dating then you've made a friend; it can be a win-win situation for you. good luck
2007-01-19 09:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be a cool friend with her for a while. Give her the time she needs to be ready. Ask her out again after a little while. Try to do some group activities so you can hang out during this time and not feel like a "date". Then she can get to know you a little better!
2007-01-19 09:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation with a girl only she is in the middle of a divorce and she has a kid. Basically ive looked at all the angles and the best thing to do is avoid seeing her, because if you start spending time with her and your not making any headway you turn into a friend and thats never a good thing. So honestly man, just look elsewhere for a relationship, its to complicated and your timing has to be pretty much perfect.
2007-01-19 09:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like she said she just got out of a three month relationship one that she probably thought wouldnt end for a while. now she is afraid to start a new relationship because she is afraid she is going to get dumped .Offer to take her to the movies not just you two thought. go with some friends-group date. then take her to dinner not the same night thought and with just the two of you.she will eventually start to trust you and know that you actually want to be with her and that you care about her. warning it may take a little while but in the end it will be worth it
2007-01-19 09:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. It is like a scene from a movie. Well she said no. So just wait a while then try again. But kinda get to know her more. Good Luck to you
2007-01-19 09:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Frannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no means no, try being her friend first wait 3 or 4 months and ask her again if she says no a second time stay being friends but move on to another girl for romance
2007-01-19 09:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just try being her friend and maybe ask her if she just would like to hang out sometime just as friends and see where it goes. I would say she may have seen that as a opportunity to tell you how she feels.
2007-01-19 09:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be reading a little too in to this. I would just sit back and relax and see what happens
2007-01-19 09:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I wuld say that she definetly is speaking her mind out at that U shuld askk her out but first gain her trust. Idk hw u do it pal but i guess that wuld be the best way to go abt doing things.
2007-01-19 09:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋