how do you stop a seven year old from shouting?

Question

My son is lovely but talk at permenantly high volume. We need help. He's one of four and the volumes just too much.

Answer 1

try talking really low when you talk to him...he might have a hearing problem

Answer 2

I have always taught my children that morning is quiet time, small soft voices, like a whisper. Try to let them watch cartoons or something they love, but turn the volume way down, so they have to listen. First make sure that he doesnt have a hearing problem. Teach by reward, inside and outside voices. Morning and evening should be nice quiet voices. Make sure that he is not hearing others shout in the house, and that maybe this might be a way to get attention. Just keep working on it, I am sure that everything will work out just fine.

Answer 3

I'm a school teacher and work in the inner city with students. Those who shout are usually used to high noise levels at home. Theey feel they need to speak loud in order to be heard. I simply start by saying you dont need to shout I promise I will listen and hear what you are saying. Then if the noise level is still inappropriate, I simply state the he/she needs to turn the volume down some. It works and they learn what noise level is acceptable.

Answer 4

Maybe being in a big family he feels he needs to shout to be heard. My mum says I was loud but I was one of 3 in a busy house so needed to be heard!

Try not ot react to the volume but ask him to repeat what he's saying in a quieter voice.

Is he like this at school? Might be worth speaking to the teachers to see.

Someone made a good point about the hearing thing, might be an issue you never know!

Answer 5

Hi if you have already had his heaing checked and everything has come back good then I'd say it's because he has three other children around him he is probably looking for attention.

You could try introuding a star chart where everytime he talks in the proper tone u reward him with a star and if he reaches so many stars u reward him with something very small and if you start noticing a change praise him as kids love this and they act on it. Good luck!

Answer 6

I think you should whisper to him and not talk too loud and tell him that he is talking too loud. If he continues I'd tell him again. If that don't work try getting his hearing checked. If his hearing is normal I would start to punish him, but not harshly. I would tell him he can't talk for about 30 min. and he'll just have to write what he wants to say. Tell him you won't answer him if he shouts it. He might not like it but it should work, if not.... tell him this poem thingy. (It helped me)

Lily Hippo is too loud. She sings too loudly, she laughs too loudly, and everyone knows when she is around. At home, she wakes the baby. At school, she gets her friends into trouble. She always is too loud. She hurts people ears. She can't help it. Then one day, a new teacher, Miss Loopiola, comes to school to teach music and drama, and Lily finds there is a time and a place for her special talent. When the school play rolls around, Lily is a shining star.

If this doesn't work, I don't know what to tell you exept to do it all again. Remember, he'll grow out of it someday. Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

What about a star chart? First day if he manages to talk quietly for 10 minutes he gets a star (or sticker of his favourite character or even just a hand-drawn smily face) stuck on his chart. You then gradually increase the time he has to be quiet for until he has to go an entire day without shouting. When he collects a certain number of stars he gets a treat. Get him involved in it. He can design the chart, suggest possible treats to aim for and so on.

Answer 8

You know what? My kids are the same and I actually blame DORA and DIEGO for not helping! Those charactors ALWAYS SHOUT! And then they ask the child watching to say it LOUDER! These programs for the most part are very educational, but geez, do they have to SHOUT??!! I dont 100% blame these shows obviously. Hearing isn't an issue. I always remind them to use inside voices, but they remember for about 10 seconds. Time outs don't seem to work either. It just comes down to constant reminders and modelling.

Answer 9

sounds like he has a slight hearing loss in one or both ears , he can hear sounds etc but cant make out what he is saying there for shouts louder than what u may expect , another thing he may have something else wroung that will cause this as well so ake him to the doc and to a ent to have his ears tested as well , it may be that hes the youngest and wants to make sure he gets some of the attention rathrer it be negative or postive attention , eitheer way see a doc and have him tested for disabilities ie add etc and have his ears tested as well , its better to make sure , and when u take him to the ent make sure its someone familier with childrens hearing etc ,

Answer 10

Teach him to use an inside voice and an outside voice. Seven is old enough to comprehend the difference. If he doesn't catch on quickly, ground him from speaking for an hour. Make him write everything he wants to say. If he gets loud again, warn him that he is going to lose his speaking privileges for an hour if he persists in being loud.

Answer 11

A lot of kids go through this.. I would just softly tell him he doesn't need to yell.
Yell something to him and ask him if he likes to be yelled at.
If these don't work take him to the Dr and have his heading checked. He might very well have a serious problem.