My girlfriend and I are having problems. We been together for 6 yrs going on 7 She always wants to break up with me. But after the break up she comes back to me. I love her alot and that is why I take her back. But then thing that scares me the most is we now live together in an apartment. We we did break up we would both still have to live together because we live so far away from home and we both have jobs here. I cant move out because we share the rent and if one of us did move out the other would have huge money problems. I'm here to see what people think I should do now and if we break up again.
Thanks so much!
2007-01-19 09:12:30 · 19 answers · asked by larryjr3333 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you have reasons to be concerned. I wouldn't worry about it too much tho. I learned that if you worry about something that hasn't happened yet 9 out of 10 times it won't happen or something totally unexpected happens. Never be anxious about tomorrow!!
2007-01-19 09:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she sounds somewhat like me. When I was in my last relationship, I was insanely unhappy. I would start fights on purpose so we would break up and then I would regret it and want him back because I didn't think I was good enough for anyone else. Man, I was an IDIOT. I was good enough for someone else.
Anyway, you get too involved and feel like that's the only way to live, but it's not. If she realized she was good enough for someone else or that it was possible for her life to be with someone else, she would have been history a long time ago.
I also think that you may suffer from self-esteem issues because you keep taking her back too. I don't know though for sure.
2007-01-19 09:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she choses to break up with you, she puts herself in the position of paying all the rent, unless you guys are both on the lease, then you are both still responsible. If not, she cant really expect to live with you after breaking up with you, believe me I tried to live with an ex and it lasted 3 days, he was not at all sensative to the fact that i was not over him, wanting to sit on the phone with the new girl all the time or have her over...NO WAY! Next time she says she wants to break up you need to let her know she has brought on her money problems herself.
2007-01-19 09:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by aprilfools1979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you guys breaking up so often,whose fault is it,if its urs then her coming back to you would mean that she has forgiven,Six years is a lot to spent with someone
2007-01-19 09:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by pacific30 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
someone i know is having the same problem!!!and i know it will be really hard to.....but you have to move on you cant be scard of that in any relationship. so it doesnt matter who does it first. but just the next time you break up stay that way and move back home. remember if shes not the one theres always someone waiting!!! :) good luck hope everything works out! :)
2007-01-19 09:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by bria<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys should go to counceling. If you dont want to do that, when you feel like you guys are about to break up just tell her you need some time to think and that you'll be back. I'm not sure why she always wants to break up with you but hopefully you work everything out.
2007-01-19 09:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of this before you moved in together. Breaking up is not easy. Now you will be stuck like married people who stay together for the children. Unless someone just bites the bullett and move out.
2007-01-19 09:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it costs too much to live apart, how much is it costing to live together? Tumultuous relationship frequently end tragically. Not a murder/suicide but a tragic breakup at the most inopportune time.
May I suggest you either get some control of this situation or abandon ship and do so as soon as is practicable.
2007-01-19 09:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she really you? Having asked yourself that question? That is question for the two of you. This splitting up the time plants a damper on you and her. If it were me, I've beginning to feel like a roller coast. Because your relationship is like a roller coaster its not going anywhere. Your love for her maybe just out of pure lust and pity but can look in the mirror. After that you can honestly look at the situation.
2007-01-19 09:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by blue_eyedpixies2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that both should discuss this issue because if one of you is having problems and being together for so long both should comprehened each other.if you and her brake up just stay were you are now because then both will have monetary difficulties and if ya'll don't want that just stay in the same place .try to solve the problem.good luck!!!
2007-01-19 09:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by layaqui 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋