Okay, I really like this guy. He's my best friend, but I can't help but like him. And I honestly think he likes me too... he always hugs me, and sometimes he even buys me things (not that it matters) but he just really seems like he likes me too... the problem? He goes out with one of my best friends. They are amazing together, and I don't wanna break that up, and i don't think he does either, but when I'm with him, I can't help but act like... well, like I like him. Im not thinking about it at the time, and then I go back and think about it later and thing 'wow i can't believe i did that...' I love my friend, and I would feel so bad if I got in the way of her relationship, but at the same time I love this guy, and he's my best friend too... I dont really know what to do about it. Any advice?
2007-01-19 08:58:07 · 6 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you do for now is stay his friend and go find yourself a new love interest. Maybe in the future somethng will work out for you and him. Don't concentrate all your energy on him, if its meant to be, it will happen.
2007-01-19 09:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel I know exactly what is bothering you. When a guy and a girl are best of friends more often than not people are possessive about each other so it becomes quite difficult to see someone coming in the way and the fact that the person who is causing all this confusion is your best girl friend, makes the problem worse. You feel you're in a fix. Reading your question I gauge that you are a truly wonderful friend to have who would hate to hurt anyone for her selfish desires. But sweetie, if you really feel strongly for him so much so that letting him go hurts I guess you need to tell him what's bothering you as well as ask your girl friend what kinda relation she enjoys with your friend. After knowing it all you need to tackle the whole situation in a matured manner so that none of you feel any bad vibes and the friendship which you guys share remains the same. Here's what you can send both of your good friends http://www.123greetings.com/events/send_a_hug_day/.....and wish you find your happiness :)
2007-01-20 00:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by lisa.reeves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about it. Control the feelings you have. If you become involved with him you will lose your friends, your self-respect and it will never work because your relationship will have to endure the strain of all the above. There are 8 Billion people in the world. Surely you can have those feelings for someone else who is not in a relationship.
2007-01-19 17:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by The Dr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes... Watch your step. You could end up losing 2 friends forever. Remember one thing.... the friends you make NOW will be in your life longer than any boy. Im still friends with my 8th grade best friend. We've been friends for 13 years! NO relationship can top that.
2007-01-19 17:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
damn that's a tough situation. looks like u are gonna have to choose between your friend and him, because if you and this guy would get together there is no way she's gonna stay friends with you, i'm just being realistic here. if you choose that he's more important to you than your friend then let him know you like him like that and if he sees the two of you together. if you choose your friends more important than let him go, there are plenty of men out there who aren't your friend's boyfriend.
2007-01-19 17:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him how you felt and tell him that you dn't want to mess up their relationship so ur not going to do anything further, just tell him when he is ready to date you then tell him come find you. He may act like he loves you but really does he?
2007-01-19 17:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Steelers Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋