im going out with a guy who only wants a virgin wife. he thinks im a virgin.its been 5 years since i slept with a man. i love this man and dont want to lose him, what should i do?
2007-01-19 08:54:07 · 48 answers · asked by delkathy35 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming that since you refered to him a "boy" that you are too young to be having sex or thinking about marriage. If he can't accept you for who you are dump him. ;)
2007-01-19 08:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with your boyfriend and tell him the truth. If he truly in love with you that's not going to matter. Why would your boyfriend think that you are a virgin? What did you say to make him believe that you are? Is he a virgin? Being honest is your best shout. If it doesn't work out then he wasn't the future husband for you. Remember always be honest from the start of any relationship.
2007-01-19 09:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that important to him - and you are obviously not a "ho" - to have waited 5 years for the right man - don't tell him. He will never know, as long as when you do sleep together you keep it fairly conventional :) If it is because of his beliefs, and you respect them, then don't tell him, - let the relationship grow, and tell him later if you feel you have a deep and trusting relationship. If you get to the stage years down the line where he will "judge you" for what you did, then he's not worth knowing, but equally, don't jeopardise your chances at this early stage. It is only your own business, and do not be ashamed of what you have done in the past. he must love you for yourself. You must take time to get to know him to decide. It could be because of valid religious beliefs, or it could be a deep rooted psychological issue, whereby he wants to be the f"irst" and not to have a "contaminated" woman. if that becomes the case, he is not worth knowing.Take your time and keep your own counsel.
2007-01-19 08:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is be honest...if you hide this and he finds out then chances are your marriage will be over anyways, also if you hide this for a long time it will eat at you, and eventually cause distrust in your relationship. If you sit with him and talk about it, and tell him you made a mistake, but have not had sex in five years he should understand, if not then move on and find someone who will accept you for who you are, past and all. Has he ever had sex before? I'll bet he has as well.
2007-01-19 08:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probaby tell him the truth. Living life with a big lie like this is unhealthy and will eventually get to you. Additionally, imagine how he would feel if he found out before you told him. Honesty is the only way for relationships to work and for you to stop thinking about it. If you love him as much as you say you do, you should tell him the truth and move forward with your relationship.
2007-01-19 09:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ben W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're selling yourself short with this narrow-minded twit. If he loves you, your virginity wouldn't matter to him.
Come clean with him. If he doesn't want you, you have really lost nothing. You are more than the value of an intact hymen.
He does deserve to be upset that you lied to him and possibly not trust you. Trust is certainly more valuable in a relationship than virginity.
However, is he stays with you anyways but treats you less than wonderful because of the state of your hymen, leave him. You deserve so much better than to be loved on the basis of your past love life.
2007-01-19 09:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is he going to find out. If you have not been with a man for
five years and you weren't a **** before then you are probably still pretty tight. Besides once you are married what the hell is he going to do. Tell him you did a lot of horseback riding.
Is he going to have you checke by a doctor. Is he royality or something.
Actually if he is this screwed up in the head maybe you might want to reconsider.
2007-01-19 08:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well the best thing to do believe it or not is tell him the truth because u dont wouldnt wanna b married and always have that guilt feeling llike the whole thing is just one big lie. If he loves u so much he wouldn't end the relationship. ofcourse he'll pe pissed off but later on he'll realize that atleast u didnt keep it a secret from him! -Good Luck
2007-01-19 08:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by jelly1505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i sure as hell hope he's a virgin, for him to say he wants only a virgin if not then he's an *** because in this day an age how many virgins does he think hes going to come across, tell him you only want to be with a virgin also
2007-01-19 09:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him the truth so you dont feel guilty about it. If this man really loves you, he will accept you for who you are. Is he a virgin? I doubt it.
2007-01-19 08:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by bannantynegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm... I smell trouble here. Men who insist on virgin wifes can be very jealous and possesive. You better think about it twice. If you decide to continue with this guy, then tell him about your not being a virgin. If you lie to him you're going to have to live with the lie potentially for a very long time.
2007-01-19 08:58:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋