I have love letters from when i was 12 or 13. Every few years I like to read them and remember those old times...do you think that's ok?
Do u do the same?
Guys, what if your girlfriend did this? would u mind?
2007-01-19 08:50:30 · 22 answers · asked by melissa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well heck yeah its okay!!! Its supercute too! Its fun to go back and read them when you're older. My mom and I went through her old love letters one time and I thought that was "so cool" that my mom was that young once and went through the same things I did at one time. If you have kids someday, they will want to read them too. Keep them definetely, I did. They bring back so many memories and feelings don't they? You can't get rid of that.
2007-01-19 09:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally do that. I had a Valentines Day card that someone gave me when I was in 5th grade up until a few months ago, when I finally came to terms with it all and threw out practically EVERYTHING from every past relationship I'd had (because I realized I'd found the right man and after that I didn't have any attachment to any of the things again).
I think it's normal and you'll come to terms and ditch it all sometime when you're ready (not saying you're still attached, just that there's a certain time when you just don't want the stuff anymore).
My man thinks that this is normal, we've had a huge discussion on it. He said that he was fine with the fact that I had a bunch of stuff from past relationships, and that he had a few things as well, before we both just subconciously threw the stuff out one day.
2007-01-19 08:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's okay.........
It's not like those relationships were anything serious at that age anyway, plus it would be pretty cool to remind yourself how you were back in the day and how you have evolved today.
It reminds you of all the times when you could have little innocent romance without the stresses of babies and money and responsibilities.
If my girl did that (assuming the letters where when she was 13 and not 23), I would probably have a good laugh or two with her. I would not have a problem with it.
2007-01-19 08:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Playa Hata 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is not only ok, its a very nice thing to do, and if it makes you feel good to read them then its great. If my girlfriend did this not only would I be ok with it, it would be a good sign to me to write some love letters of my own! If my girlfriend took some joy from them, I would assume that new ones would be an excellent way to show I cared :)
2007-01-19 08:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I still have some packed away somewhere and I am 26. I would have regretted throwing out some letters and pictures and things because a lot of the people from those days have died and its the only tangible memories I have left of them. My husband doesn't mind one bit.
My friend went on some tangent and burned a lot of her old pictures and notes and stuff and regrets it, but once its done, its too late.
2007-01-19 08:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would I mind if my adult girlfriend kept love letters from when she was was 12 or 13 and occasionally read them? Not at all, but I'm an emotionally well-adjusted confident adult man. Unfortunately, not all of us are like this.
2007-01-19 08:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey things from a persons past are moments trapped in time. The thing here is though, If you are in a relationship, reading them once a week is not a good thing. As a guy I would be wondering if you were secretly thinking of these people and missing them. Or if you were thinking of them while we had sex.
And that could get to be a point of contention.
2007-01-19 08:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see nothing wrong with this. My spouse has stuff from his life before me, as I have stuff from my life before him. And there's the real point here - it was BEFORE your current boyfriend/spouse/whatever and as such, the ONLY part that is their business is what you choose to share with them.
If hey bring you good memories, then keep them. I wish I'd have kept some stuff I got rid of. This is your history - it will tell people in your family - long after you are dead and gone - who you were, what you believed, who you loved. Nothing wrong with that.Also nothing wrong with you keeping it all to yourself if you should so choose. Or sharing it all with your mate. It depends fully on you and him and what each of you is comfortable with. And if you choose not to share, then your man needs to be mature enough to respect that. After all - who among us is the exact same person we were at 13?
2007-01-19 08:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You'll like them best when you are 80 years old. Then when you die and your children or grand children find them, they'll be amazed by the dimension of you they never knew. The letters will become important to them too.
2007-01-19 08:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by greenwitch822 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes i question this, i think it's good to save things, but yet, it's also good to let the past go...My official answer is to keep some letters, but also be able to let SOME go...especially past relationships...to me it seems you are holding on to the past..i tend to do that myself...
2007-01-19 08:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by cutegirlin_tn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋