My brother and I were as close as twins growing up. That changed when he got married two years ago. I was delighted with his wife in the beginning, but soon after she began to alienate him a little. I understood since they have their own personal life. But they continued very close to my mom and little by little over the two years refused to even talk to me? I tried emailing my brother asking him what I did wrong? He won't even answer. Well they got pregnant right after getting married and a few months later she supposedly "lost" the pregnancy..I later found out she aborted but I stayed out of that since it was their business. Well since my baby son was born in September they totally ignore him, too. My brother won't even hold him once or acknowledge him at all..which is bizarre since he lavishes loads of attention on my 12 year old. Thanksgiving they came over and ate my food and drank my wine and said NOT ONE WORD to me the whole time. But they brought my mom and daughter gifts.
2007-01-19 08:49:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Christmas was the same way..but this time I just avoided meeting up with them. I left them gifts under the tree for my mom to give them which they took but heard nothing else after that. I am terribly hurt and have no idea why they are treating me so meanly. I cannot think of a single reason people would be this cold to me. I have always welcomed his wife with open arms and now it seems that they hate me and my baby(!) for no reason. My mom delicately asked my brother what was up and he said that I was immature for having another baby. For godssakes I am 29 years old and married now..my other child is 12..it is not like I am popping them out year after year!
2007-01-19 08:52:59 · update #1
Sorry for the short novel but I have no clue what else to do other than just write my own brother off!
2007-01-19 08:53:36 · update #2
Too bad....Sorry. it sounds like they're going through some sort of emotional thing. Maybe they're envious of you and the fact that you can have kids-Who knows. But either way, i wouldn't stand for that kind of treatment. Call and offer to meet with them for dinner so you can talk about this. If that doesn't work, then I would stop having any contact with them at all. If they want to alienate and break up parts of the family, that's their loss. Maybe you should start having holiday get togethers without them, so they can see what it feels like. Invite everyone, BUT them. Sorry to hear your having these troubles. Good luck.
2007-01-19 09:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by court 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a little upset because you are married, and have TWO kids, where he has NONE. He's probably just as upset as you are. I think that the next time he comes over, tell him that he can NOT come in your house. He has not been accepting you as a sister, so you won't accept him as a guest in your home. It may be kind of mean, but sooner or later he's going to talk to you about it. He'll probably apologize, and you'll have a happy life later on. Hope this helps, and I hope you and your brother get your relationship back to the way it was!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-19 17:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by .:Feliciano:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds really sad. Your brother could be grieving over the loss of his child. His jealousy of you prevents him from showing affection to your or your child. There may be more going on in his life than he is willing to share. I would get some help from your mother to get the two of you together so you can talk. Then be caring and not judgmental.
Hopefully the two of you talk about it he will come around
2007-01-19 18:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care for your brother then you'll have to have a serious face to face conversation about your relationship. When people stop talking to each other and not confront the problem, the problem grows way out of proportion. During the conversation don't just say your side but listen to his side. When you face these types of problems head then only can you mend the relationship.
2007-01-19 16:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might just be jealous. You should acually if the wife works try to talk to him alone all by himself because when your usually around other people you tend to go with what they say. you should tell him that's it's really important and that he talk this out with you.
2007-01-19 16:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋