I share a strong mutual attraction with a man I work with. Because of our positions, we can't do anything about it right now. So, I just try to look my best and do the best job I can. Every so often, this man will flirt with me, compliment my outfit, ask if I have a boyfriend, what am I doing for the weekend, what's my email, etc. It feels great and I love it but when I initiate anything he backs off. So, I go about my way and then he's flirting with me again and this time a little more like brushing up against me with lots of looking, etc. Of course I love it but I wish it would go somewhere. I had a dream in which I kissed him. I worked my courage up to tell him and all he said he could say was "that's interesting." and "you know I can't say more than that." Huh?? MEN, help me understand this cycle. He flirts, backs off, flirts heavier, backs off. Does this cycle look like it will EVER go somewhere? Does it look like he wants me but is afraid to say so?
2007-01-19 08:44:29 · 5 answers · asked by jewels 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants you but probably feels his job is too important to throw away for a fling with you. plus the flirting and attraction help you get through the day. you made the first move about the kissing dream so why dont you wait because now he knows you are interested.
2007-01-19 08:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he wants to keep it a secret. the question is why. obviously being a boss and if the two of you dated and it ended badly you could sue for sexual harassment. he might also have a girlfriend who works there or some one who is friends with them is there. if so he could be looking for a piece on the side or finding a new partner before he dumps her. or worse he is a player and is secretly hitting on a few girls. to rub up against another shows he isnt shy. i think you had better talk to him and find out whats going on. if he cannot or will not give you a straight answer try asking a few others about him and see if he is just as friendly with them as he is with you. and if you dont like what you hear then tell him to back off and dont talk to you again.
2007-01-19 17:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that he is either married and flirting with the idea of cheating or he is just playing you up because he knows he can. in my opinion tell him to knock it off that flirting is fine but if it does not move into more than it needs to stop. this will push him in the direction of wanting more or leaving you alone.
2007-01-19 16:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for several reasons this will not go anywhere although he obvioisly likes you. Obviously he values his job and doesn't want to risk it with an office romance or a potential sexual harrassement suit.
If you want something to happen discuss it with outside of work sometime.
2007-01-19 16:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants you but is afraid of losing his job
2007-01-19 16:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by stanley w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋