Well i been feeling very down for quite a while, my mum says i'm depressed. I been avoiding my friends everytime they call, i tell my family to say that i'm sleeping or out. I know its wrong, but i feel really antisocial and i don't know what to say- i don;t want to be all doom and groom and what do you say?
"What have you been up to?"
"NOTHING JUST SLEEPING, EATING AND SHITTING PLUS I'M MISERABLE"
i don't want to lose my friends, but they can't help me and i can't be bothered by them
I dunno what to do? Should just explain to them (i'm not good at explaining , im always misunderstood) or should just avoid them til i cant sort myself out???
2007-01-19 08:43:51 · 11 answers · asked by Blackout 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I've been where you are. I never answered the phoned when my friends called when I was depressed either. You know what happens? They eventually stop calling and you have no friends and thats not cool. Even though you are depressed, you need make time and effort for your friends. You have to go out even if you don't feel like it and even if you don't get anything out of it. Sometimes you have to go out for your friends benefit. It's a two way relationship. I highly recommend you go to a psychistrist and get put on medication before you have no friends left. You will discover later in life how important they are.
2007-01-19 08:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rockford 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your friends can help,i have been there where you are now..and it is like a big cloud over you and you are sleeping more than usual..because that is what depressed people do.First you need to estabish what chnages have been occuring recenlty to make you feel like this..secondly get on the phone noe and tell your friends how you feel and have a good CRY..do not be ashamed to fee upset..make that first move.ALSO may i suggest you take some Johns Wort.For a more instant lift take BACH FLOWER REMEDY to take the edge off your stress,and keep a diary of daily events so you can pinpoint things.you do not have to explain to anyone about yourself..we have all been there,but you need a friend and a nice day out!!
hope you feel better soon..Take care..jANINE.
2007-01-19 17:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by janine s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got the t-shirt :(
Avoidance is not the way. they are your friends mainly because they like being in your company, you will loose them if you don't spend time with them (like I lost mine).
Anxiety issues are aggravated by avoiding the situation. It is very hard (I know) but you have to just get out there and face them. The anxiety drops after a while.
work at it, and it may just be a blip, but avoiding doing things that you enjoy when you need a pick-me-up is not a good way to go about things.
I've got friends again now, but it wasn't easy.
Best wishes!
2007-01-19 16:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they're truly your friends then they'll be supportive, and back off when you request them to if you tell them you're having problems. Even if they're not that responsive and don't know how to deal with your problems, real friends will respect your needs in those kinds of situations. Not telling them, my friend, may result in alienating them and them not understanding why you avoid them...it's hurtful. Explain to them (especially if you want to), you don't have to go into great detail but at least let them know you need to be alone for a while or something.
2007-01-19 16:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to just one close friend and take it from there. I think your mum is right, you do sound depressed. Go to the doctors and have a chat, you will feel better with treatment;
2007-01-19 16:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you can't "sort yourself out." Isn't it about time you got some professional help? Your mother sounds supportive. Why are you allowing yourself to remain miserable? Don't you want to feel better? Because some people don't. They are actually addicted to their misery.
2007-01-19 16:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest and let them know how you are feeling but promise to get in touch with them when you start to feel better .. You may lose your friends if you ignore them completely ..
2007-01-19 16:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try making an appointment with your doctors and explain it to them then pick one of your closest friends and explain it to them so they could tell your other friends the situation tell them you need a time out and not to worry you'll soon be yourself again good luck and keep your chin up
2007-01-19 16:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your friends, they can help. Tell them how you feel and try planning things to look forward too. Even little things can help. Have you spoken to your GP?
Take care
2007-01-19 16:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you want some time to yourself. Everyone's entitled to that from time to time. If they don't accept that, they're not very good friends.
2007-01-19 16:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋