ok my little brother has this girlfriend that hes been dating for a year and i really dont like her....she is really selgf absorbed and rude and i wanna split them up so i dont need to listen to her anymore...any ideas?
2007-01-19 08:41:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave it alone...Life goes on. We can't all make decisions for others and you wouldn't like him interfering in your life like that. You might try talking to him about it. Let him know what's bothering you but be nice about it. And don't make accusations about her being "rude and self-absorbed" unless you have instances to back you up. He might see what he hasn't been able to before. If he still doesn't think you're right, or if he likes her that way, then all you can do is back off and stay clear. I know that it's not always possible, like family gatherings, but just find someone else to hang out with or chat with and try to ignore her. She may end up being your sister-in-law and that's something you can't control.
2007-01-19 08:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by w8n4u_2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it may sound weird, but my advice to you would be... WHATEVER YOU DO...don't try and split them up!! Well at least don't let him be aware of what you are trying to do. If he knows that you don't want them to be together than it will make him stay with her that much longer. She will have an excuse for everything "she is just doing it because she don't like me.." you know that sort of thing. You have to keep your cool and sit back. If she is really that bad then he will realize it on his own.. it may take him a bit because men are sometimes slow when it comes to relationships. If that doesn't work then I would start taking things in your own hands, but like I said DON'T LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU DON'T LIKE HER!! hope this helps....
2007-01-19 16:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by natasha_dingman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the right to break them up, just like no one has the right to interfere in YOUR relationships. However, you DO have the right, and the responsibility, to look after your little brother and keep him from getting hurt.
Tell your brother you're you're concerned that the girl will hurt eventually, because of her callous and selfish ways. Provide reasons, not just your own personal dislike. You can also tell him that you don't care for her company, and would appreciate it if he would limit contact between you and her.
But remember, if he still chooses her, YOU will be the one to loose out on your brother's company by absenting yourself from their presence.
2007-01-19 16:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you are the one self-absorbed. Why are you wanting to ruin what your brother has because of the fact that you don't like her? If you weren't related, I'd swear this was jealousy coming through. Lead your own life - avoid the girlfriend - and if she really is bad news he'll learn in time and deal with it on his own.
2007-01-19 16:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW my friend just went thru this w/her lil bro! the girl was bossy, self-centered, aggressive, and had awful manners- ew!
So, my friend and her older bro. just told the lil guy, shes mean an we don't like her!!! he pretty much ignored them. so. sorry i guess that doesn't help much. but seriously, i guess the best thing to do is just to tell him hey you're my brother and i love you, i don't want you to get hurt! this girl's bad news, i know, so lose her! please! if he won't tell your rents how worried (and disgusted) you are that she's gonna ruin your bro and see i they cant talk some sense into him.
or just scare her away by making her miserable evry time she comes over.=P
Good luck with that...
2007-01-19 16:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Shirley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to your brother and explain the situation to him, leaving out the fact that you want them split up of couse. Ask if he has noticed it, chances are he's so love struck that he hasn't. Let him know that you are only looking out for his interests and leave him to think about it. After awhile he'll start to notice things and handle it accordingly, if not then he wants to be in that situation cuz he loves her. Good luck!
2007-01-19 16:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yo my man guest what, She not your lady, If you really hate this young lady like you say. Then when ever she & your brother are together beat it. I really don't think that they are very happy that your around when they are together. Or just get yourself a girl friend and then you don't have to worry about what your brother and his lady are doing.
2007-01-19 16:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hear ya, but speaking from experience, it is best to not get invloved with a sibling's or friend's girlfriend choices. Just grin and bear it.
2007-01-19 16:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by Steelhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat with my big brother and his fiance--I just ignore whatever she says-she makes him somewhat happy and nothing is going to change that. Don't make a mistake by doing somthing that will make your brother resent you. Just let it go
2007-01-19 16:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Doug H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not your business to split them up. Also, the harder you TRY to split them up, the more determined they're going to be to stay together. Just stay away from her if you don't like her.
2007-01-19 16:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jess H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋