My mother (bi-polar and a nut case in general) pulled my 12 year old brother out of school for over 2 months (told the school she was going to home-school him, all he did was play video games all day). I just found out recently and told her she had a week to get him back into school. Well, she didn't put him back in school so I called Child Protective Services and the Truancy Officer. Now she has shipped him off to New Mexico without letting him say goodbye to any of us. She is hiding him there with someone. She is not a fit mother, I have proof after what she did to me and my sister. I am able to take care of him, I'm 24, make plenty and have room in my house. His dad wants him to come live with him too. His dad is not the biological father...my brother's real father wants nothing to do with him. Is there anything I can do to get my brother back here? We are in Minnesota and now my brother is in hiding in New Mexico (I know I could figure out where he is with a little work)
2007-01-19 08:40:54 · 8 answers · asked by partiesbyadren 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should report it.
if it was my brother I would (if you have enough money) hire a private investagator cause looking for him yourself is way too dangerous. You should tell someone that your mother is doing this and sue for custody but if you have a steday job and a big enough home you caould prabably win the case.
Hoped I helped!
2007-01-19 08:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not an expert but I think the first step you should try would to get legal custody of your brother. You may try to work with Child Protective Services, however, they are usually limited to what they would be able to do to help you.
The other thing you would really have to consider is how your brother will react. My experience with 12 year old boys is that they can be very difficult. You would need to make sure that you have a lot of support to help to help you with some of the behavioral problems that you are likely encounter with your brother.
If I were you, I would get some legal advice, research your area for support for yourself to help deal with adolescents. In Maine there are Family Support Services available for families. Your Health and Human Services Division may be able to point you in the right direction. If not, look for organizations that work with families that have had trauma.
It sounds like your brother will be in need of some counseling as well. The whole ordeal of not being wanted by his Dad, and being sent away by his Mom creates enormous trauma, grief and antagonism for a young boy. Remember, too, you have to be able to take care of yourself and your family emotionally as well.
Hope that my little bit of info can help you get started. Good Luck. He may not appreciate your love and caring right away, but he will in the future.
2007-01-19 17:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by girafflady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child services and the Truancy officer back and ask them what you can do to gain custody. I'm sure they can help lead you in the right direction. You sound like a very caring sister and I don't think you will have too much trouble gaining custody.
2007-01-19 16:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing sounds like a mess! But, without knowing everything about your mom, it's hard to answer. Sounds like your mom needs medical help? Without proving your mother legally unfit as a mother, you have NO rights to your brother. Sorry to hear you and your mom are not on the same page, can that be changed? Being bi-polar is not her fault you know. It is a REAL mental illness, that needs to be controlled with meds. It's great your concerned about your brothers well being, but I wish you were just as concerned about your mom. You can have your mom committed legally for a certain amount of time -each state is different-if she is a danger to herself or anyone else. You may want to look into that.
2007-01-19 16:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,since u have already called Child Protective Service,I think u should contact them again and maybe they will be able to advice u as to what to do.U should also get the police involve too.Your brother could be in danger,so contact the Child Protective Service again
2007-01-19 16:58:58
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You need to report it, and go to Court. This is very serious, and having your brother hidden away is not good. Report it to the police, and again to the Child Protective Services and Truancy Officers. you really need to find him, and who knows what is happening to him right now. do everything in your power to find, him. Even if it means having to spend a little extra cash.
2007-01-19 16:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by .:Feliciano:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will have to be able to prove all the things you say about her then you will have to take her to court. then you may have to take custody of your brother or go to other in your family to help you. this will be very hard for you and you will need some kind of support so go talk to someone a lawyer or even maybe a social worker good luck and i hope you get your brother back
2007-01-19 16:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by mary m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to alert the authorities and get legal help...all the best to you, your heart is in the right place andit is very big!! you brother is lucky to have you and i am sure will do wonderful with you. i hope all the best for you and your brother
2007-01-19 16:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋