She left me and now says she loves me and misses me but cannot live with me as we argue too much.. I love her so much but when I push she pulls. So I went quiet for a month and when I don't contact her she asks if I am seeing someone else.. neither of us are. Anyway when I give reasons to get back she will re iterate we argue too much or the other reason that it wouldn't be fair for us to be walking on egg shells around eachother if we got back?? She has thought (she says) of coming back but then finds a reason not to. Usually the fear we will argue. We didn't argue that much just quite badly in our last 3 months as I had a lot of stress at work and stuff... What the heck do I do. I really love her and feel re vitalised and better for the split but want her so much.. Any advice??
2007-01-19 08:17:30 · 12 answers · asked by Jason E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She left me and now says she loves me and misses me but cannot live with me as we argue too much.. I love her so much but when I push she pulls. So I went quiet for a month and when I don't contact her she asks if I am seeing someone else.. neither of us are. Anyway when I give reasons to get back she will re iterate we argue too much or the other reason that it wouldn't be fair for us to be walking on egg shells around eachother if we got back?? She has thought (she says) of coming back but then finds a reason not to. Usually the fear we will argue. We didn't argue that much just quite badly in our last 3 months as I had a lot of stress at work and stuff... What the heck do I do. I really love her and feel re vitalised and better for the split but want her so much.. Any advice??
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Do I keep in her sights by telling her how I feel and re assuring her or ask her out on a friends and watch and see date and if she says no or is unsure leave her to it and try again later
2007-01-20 01:08:16 · update #1
dduuuuuddddeee....i'm in the same situation.......it really sucks doesn't it?....honestly, you guys need to really talk decide what you can agree on. See if you guys can just stay good friends for now and and see if you can get back together in the future.....that's really weird because he said that stuff to me......that's really odd......like......reallllly odd...and i said some stuff to him, i don't wanna get back together with him because WE argued every frrrrickin day .....anyway..... sorry, dejavue.....oka....seriously, if you guys truely love each other, you'll get back together and you'll be able to agree to disagree...sounds like she's just trying to make sure that she still has a chance with you if she decides she DOES want it.
2007-01-19 08:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I were you, I'd minimize the contact, the time you spend together, but "minimizing" means make the most of it so that you have no time to argue, much. I would not move in with her beacuse it has not worked so far. What do you argue about anyway, is ithere anything important, it might be an idea to think through, and maybe talk over it, but you'll have to find a new manner of talking, \I mean both of you. Some people just leave the house when an argument comes up, by the time they get back there is no argument. Sorry i am a bit drunk at the moment, and i might sound a bit inconsistent. I wouldn't bin yet, take it easy, and literally walk out away from argumetns. And, of course enjoy sex lol
2007-01-19 08:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/TayIk
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 20:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/WQ7MW
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-24 11:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her i she wants to talk about why you two really argue. when you were going together, you probably argued about trivial things, never resolving the big issues. so sit her down and have a serious conversation about how your past relationship failed. then, if you believe that you can get back into a relationship with each other, then do so. but don't do it if you know its not going to work.
2007-01-19 08:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by drogo_brandebuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's crazy and you need to move on. She is playing your mental and emotional feelings like a fiddle. Back and forth, back and forth. You need to man up and either not talk to her or just don't investigate getting back with her. Go hang with your buddies, do stuff to get her off of your mind. She wants to hold onto you buy a string, but when you first act like you want to get back with her she lets go. She doesn't love you man.
2007-01-19 08:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have to move on. The pain will go away eventually, there are plenty o' fish in the sea dude.
2007-01-19 08:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by mykd4sound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a classic "sex with the ex" scenariao... just have sex with her and don't worry about having a relationship where you have to live with each other...
2007-01-19 08:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be it misses something in you .. may be she loves you .. but be sure that the period of time anyone spend without a partner , he/she think about her missed love or her old stories that can be opened again to avoid being single ... but she may love you
2007-01-19 08:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARGUE THIS MUCH NOW, THINK ABOUT HOW IT WILL BE IF YOU GOT MARRIED!!
BEST JUST TO LET IT GO. SOMETIMES WE MAKE BETTER FRIENDS THAN GIRLFRIENDS.
2007-01-19 08:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋