My boyfriend talks to & see his ex gf regularly & says it's because he cares about her 10yr old kid since they dated 5 yrs. The ex gf dumped him and broke his heart.I understand about the kid but I think he still likes the ex gf. I have an ex husband and we have 2 kids & share visitation and we don't communicate nearly as much, just to make arrangements. My boyfriend gets extremely jealous when I talk to my ex husband about our kids but sees no problems with talking to his ex girlfriend to "keep in touch" with daughter. Am I the only one who sees this as a wrong?
2007-01-19 08:09:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well we all bring luggage into a relation but seems to me like he cares deeply for the little girl just tell him how you feel and how is affecting you the relation he has with her and take it from there make some arrangements and communicate****
2007-01-19 08:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be using the little girl as a excuse to get next to the exgirlfriend. He may think if he hangs out with them, the ex will want to come back. It's not even his kid and if he cared about your feelings, he wouldn't see them or at least the ex. He could take the girl out or take you and the girl somewhere. All it's doing is hurting the little girl anyway. He's in her life one minute and out the next. Takes a toll on children.
2007-01-19 16:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how that is wrong. keeping in touch with the kids should be both of your responsiblities to those kids. The only time either one of you would be in the wrong is if more then communication is going on. if there is times of being together with the ex. with out the kids. but other then that if it is only a communication thing going on on either party. what is wrong with that?
I think that it is great that my daughters father keeps incontact with us for them to stay close and he can be a part of her life.
we have no other things going on other then that. sure we care about each other, but that is as far as it goes.
2007-01-19 16:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are right...he is wrong (at least based on your 'version' of the story). Hard to tell, he may have another side of the story. But he should never do anything to put himself between you and your children (including getting pissed when you talk to your ex concerning the kids).
2007-01-19 16:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Thoroughbred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...it is definitely wrong!!!! you need to tell him how you feel and give him an ultimatum b/c he definitely still have feelings for her whether he wants to admit it or not. the kid is 10 and will forget about him after a while. its not good for him to get attached to the kid especially since he's not with his ex. what he needs to do if give your 2 kids the attention instead.
2007-01-19 16:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I don't like the double standard. If you said he was okay with you talking to your ex, I would say just let it go but he can't have it both ways.
2007-01-19 16:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋