I've moved to another state and tried to start dating again, but I'm still in love with a man that never loved me back. We lived together for two years and then he told me that the entire time he was in love with someone else. We have stayed friends, but I still love him as more. I don't want to throw away such a strong friendship. We have been there for each other since I was 16 and I don't think I can move on. I've tried. What should I do?
2007-01-19 07:58:51 · 9 answers · asked by morgan_ayn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you can move on. How could you NOT move on from someone who obviously does not feel about you how you feel about him? Is it fun? Do you enjoy being miserable? Probably not. Now you need to realize that if you don't move on, you're going to be miserable forever. If it hasn't been long since you two broke up, give it time, you'll get over it.
Whatever you do, you should NOT try and get him to come back to you. You have to accept things for what they are, and have faith that if you are supposed to be with him, he'll realize it. If you aren't meant to be with him, nothing you do is going to make him want you - in fact it will make you look desperate.
2007-01-19 08:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading your question actually brought slight tears to my eyes. As well as flash back. I was never in the same situation but the person never told me he loves me in return although his action spoke louder then words. He warned me at the time he is a man of actions and not a man of words. Anyway, needless to say it was true and very uncomfortable for me. He never told me the words so I decided not to tell him the words either. Needless to say. My favorite words are no two people ever fall in love at the same time unless it is love at first sight. He may not be in love with you now and probably he will be when its too late. I am not sure how old you are now but you will heal in due time. Start thinking of all the reasons why you should get over him and not why you can't move on. Although the friendship is worth holding on to, you should still give your self space and time to get over him not feeling the way you do. The more you speak to him the more you will think of the past moments in the back of your mind. Lets face it. You relocated just so he can still sense how much your hung up on him. You don't have to express what you are feeling I am sure he can figure it out. Stop putting yourself through the roller coaster. Get off it and look forward not behind. If i were you I would change my number make sure it is not listed and don't call him until I am able to move on. If he is a true friend he will understand even if you decide to contact him ten years from now.
2007-01-19 08:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by ThisIsAsHonestAsItGets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UHHHm...been there! Only I have never lived with the guy...
listen hon', you can move on ONLY IF YOU WANT TO, i dont think you really want to do it.
try to go out more, meet other men because even though you may think HE is the greatest and the best and oh so wonderful and that you cant never find somebody like him you just might realise that there are still many many fish in the sea. Sure, some are "louzy" fish, sure some are "looser" fish but some can be pretty "edible" ;) and I beg you (it what I was doing for so many years and now I regret it so much) dont stuck on one guy...hes really not the only one!
So how do you move on? As already said, go out, party a bit more than usual so you can meet a variety of men, eat some of your favourite cookies, read an awsome book and go to the cinema with your lady friends:)
2007-01-19 08:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mariella Williams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he REALLY a good friend? You were together for two years, even lived together but he was actually in love with someone else the whole time. Would a good friend, even if they've become more, lie to you and play with your emotions for that long?
I hate to say it but it might be best if you two just go your separate ways. This is the risk that you have when you date good friends. It might be emotionally healthier for you to just move on completely.
2007-01-19 08:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about the situation, I was kinda in the same situation but there were children involed. It's not that he told me he didnt love me , I recieved a phone call from another woman who was also pregnant. Thru all of that I still had feelings for him, now they are fading away but that's thru prayer and just learning how to LOVE ME FIRST! If it's meant he will be back and if you cant handle just being a friend and it seems like you cant keep a distance on everything you have in common with him even just being there for him.
2007-01-19 08:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by godgodsaveshappiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would really help is if you dated around and found someone else to spend time with. Just get your mind off of that dude and go out and meet new people. Seriously, that's pretty much how to get over someone.
2007-01-19 08:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can move on it's just going to take some time. I would do things that make you happy. In time you will find someone who will return your love. They may even love you more. You will be okay.
2007-01-19 08:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he told you he never loved you then yoiu have to get out and enjoy life and try to move on as best as possible. try to find someone that wouldn't mind talking about it and someone your comfortable with.
2007-01-19 08:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time! You will forget about him. I have been there and i know how hard it is. But, everyday i keep trying harder. Good luck.
2007-01-19 08:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋