Mary SMember since: October 19, 2006
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Would you throw in the towels cause he's not ready to commit or is it still early?
I've been dating this guy for 5 months He likes me too... I am ready for a commitment and I think he would rather go slow...that's ok sometimes except that I'm in love with him..he gets turned off when I tell him that I want more...we've talked about it but I think it pushes him away cause he feels I'm rushing....I think he wants to go slow cause he gets a lot of attention from other females and he likes it. We have a good time together and have a lot in common...New Years I told him "It's a new year and I want more" If he's not willing to give it I was moving on...now our relationship is on pins on needles but we still talk on the phone and he still spends time (even though now limited) with me. I don't think that he's afraid to commit ...just that he is not ready to walk down the
2007-01-19 07:56:21 · 14 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's been with you for 5 MONTHS and he doesn't want to commit? Don't you see a big problem here?
I'm assuming that you're not talking about marriage but a committed relationship. After 5 MONTHS he should be ready for that. Since he's not, I have a feeling that he'll NEVER be ready for a real relationship.
Sorry, you found yourself a bad man.
2007-01-19 08:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's walking down the aisle you want, it may be too soon. My husband told me that at six months, if I would have said I wanted to get married, he would have run the other way. But at one year, he was ready. It may just take a bit more time on that.
If it is a committed, exclusive relationship you want, he should be able to give you that after 5 months. If not, then he's playing with you and wants to feel good about himself from all the attention he gets from other women. If that's the case, drop him.
Just remember that commitment does not necessarily mean engagement and marriage.
2007-01-19 16:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by porcelain78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its understanding that you feel inlove and you want to feel secure in your relationship.You found the one and want to make sure he stays.The truth is I do think that 5 months is not long enough to be makin demands.Your relationship is still new.Girl if you want to keep him don't scare him away by pushing him into things hes not ready for.If it was meant to be it will be.IT seems you already know deep down what the answer is.Besides its the mans job to chase after the girl he loves.
2007-01-19 16:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not ready, then he is not ready. He said no then there is nothing you can do, excepting make a decision about yourself. Does he worth as much to you for you to wait? Or you think that he will never be ready for you? Be honest to yourself. Some decisions are painful. But in the end, you will be glad that you have been honest and have had the courage to take care of yourself..
2007-01-19 16:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by zhifa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he isn't ready to commit it's just been 5 months, I coudl understand 5 yrs. you need to slow down. If you don't you might lose him, so quit been pushy. ANd what if they other girls pay attention to him, he's with you right? That's how msot of the relationships break up of jealous.
2007-01-19 16:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five months is a short time to get married or engaged just yet. I can tell that he's not ready to settle down and you should either wait or move on and wonder if he was the one for you.
2007-01-19 16:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys dont like to be rushed and its only been 5 months so if you have something good don't rush it...hold on to it and give it soome time. Things will work out. And that doesnt mean he loves you any less just cuz he hasnt committed to you yet!
2007-01-19 16:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off his back! I felt pushed just by reading your letter. Forever is a long time, don't forget that. He is not a piece of property for you to claim as your own. (which it seems you are trying to do.) Give the commitment thing a rest
2007-01-19 16:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by OTOLiN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take your time. I don't know what your religious background is, but everything happens for a reason -- have patience with him and see where it goes, if it is a year and he's not hinting to make it a marriage proposal then cut your losses and move on. you sound like you are still in your early years, so enjoy your life, this one might not be it.
2007-01-19 16:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doe'nt want to committ to you don't play your self find you some guys to show attention if he wants you he will come around don't rush it cause you will regret it
2007-01-19 16:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by mcqmnc329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋