My boy friend and I have had sex and want to do it again but his mum thinks that we are thinking about it for the first time and she wants us to get permission from them but even if we did ask they would peobably say no. Does anyone know of a law web site or something where I can get proper proof that you do not need permission when you are 16. I think she is being unreasonable because we have been together nearly a year now. So please, i need some proof to prove to her that we ARE old enough without permission coz she wont accept it and I know we are I just need hard coppied proof.
2007-01-19 07:50:26 · 29 answers · asked by ATB 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
You are not old enough.
2007-01-19 07:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by theearlybirdy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The age of consent varies by state. I believe it is 16 in most states but that would also depend on the age of your boyfriend. If you are both under 18 I don't think there is anything to be concerned about from a legal standpoint. If he is 18 or older, you do need to be careful because it could lead to a statutory rape charge if your parents find out and want to make and issue of it.
I don't have any particular opinion about when you should or shouldn't have sex, but I do think you are over-thinking the situation. It's supposed to be something between you and your boyfriend. However, if the approval and/or permission of your parents is important to you, I would take that as a clear indication you are not ready for sex.
2007-01-19 15:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The legal age of consent for men and women is 16 (providing that both partners are of a similar age, both are capable of making an informed choice/decision and there is no coercion on the part of 1 of the partners. If 1 of the partners is in a position of "trust and responsibility, they may well be breaking the law).
I assume that you are both living with your parents and therefore you have a duty to respect their wishes regardless of the law. The realisation that ones children are becoming sexualised and sexually active is very traumatic for parents and it seems that they only wish to ensure that you are both capable of taking such a huge step on the road to maturity.
I do not think it is a good idea to confront a parent with "hard legal facts". You may find that reassurance is a much more positive approach to this difficult dilemma.
I hope I have helped in some way.
2007-01-19 16:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by paul h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are both 16 years old or older, then you are legally free to copulate until your heart is content (UK law).
By the way, try ignore the people above me passing moral judgement on you. If you want to have sex and you are both of legal age, then go right ahead. Just be responsible and don't do anything stupid. Ive been doing it since I was 17 and ive never got anyone pregnant or caught any sexually transmitted diseases.
That said your boyfriend's mum is only looking out for him. She has no moral or legal right to stop you. But cut her a little slack and she'll come round eventually. She just loves her son and does not want to see him get into trouble.
2007-01-19 18:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I am not going to help you there.. why.. because i dated a guy for two years .. had sex got knocked up and yes I used a condom.. Thanksfuly I am 25 and have not a perfect but a great life but the point is for the first two years I was still a teen and it was hard... a baby waking you up all the time and trying to go to school and all the other things you have to do. and I didn't think about that when I was with my boyfriend I thought I use a condom and what are the chances.. you need to really think beyond the skin.. babies eat every two hours if your lucky.
2007-01-19 15:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mikentab R 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a legal age for sex. The thing you need to do is protect yourself! Get as much info on sexually transmitted diseases and how you can protect yourself. If i could do it all over again i would have listened to my mom. Your 16 now do you really think that your going to spend the rest of your life with your boyfriend! Do you really know that he's going to be one hundred percent only with you? everyone when their in love feels that its always going stay the same. Believe my it doesn't. As you go through your life you'll sleep with more and more people. After a while you won't feel it really matters who you sleep with and then you'll end up sleeping with more. The specialness of it won't be the same anymore. Then theirs the consequences of it. AIDS, HUMAN PAPALONIA VIRUS which leads to cancer, YEAST INFECTIONS, BACTERIAL INFECTIONS,ETC! Then theirs getting PREGNANT! Or getting pregnant and having a sickly or diseased baby! This is really secious!!! I know it feels so good and you love your boyfriend NOW, but think about it! You really don't want to mess up your life!
2007-01-19 16:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are both 16 consenting to sex its ok but to ask permission lowers the tone of the act just have a good time with protection and just smile afterwards everyone will now how you feel
2007-01-20 04:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy, how did this guy's mother get into the equation. Did she sit down with the two of you and just come out with this? Did your boy friend bring this subject with his mother?
Sounds strange, you guys are both too immature for a sexual relationship if your are required to get permission from some authority figure.
2007-01-19 16:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sgt 524 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Amy,
Assuming you live in the UK.
I expect his mum is fully aware of the age of consent, I think that it is a matter of you sleeping with your boyfriend. It is her way of showing disapproval.
If my daughter came home with her boyfriend at 16 thinking she was going to sleep with him, life as she knows it would end and God knows what her dad would do to the boyfriend, the lad becoming a permanent soprano springs to mind. He is very protective of her.
You are trying to grow up too quickly. You have plenty of time and respect his mum's wishes. It will show maturity on your part.
Think about it.
2007-01-19 18:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to support and raise a child? If you are financially and mentally ready to raise a child without you parents doing it for you, have at it. Getting permission is kind of silly. If you get knocked up, you are the one who will give birth to the child and the blunt of the responsibility will fall on your shoulders. Don't count on boyfriend to hang around and help out with everything.
2007-01-19 15:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the UK you are both old enough. Your Mum would need proof of either of you are underage. It has little to do with her and so there lies your problem
Are you both mature enough
Are you using birth control? - a baby is for life.... do you want one now???
Are you both free of sexually transmitted diseases (!!)
Are you prepared to answer to your parents.
Will your god look on this in a favourable light?
Your choice, your body and YOU LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES!
2007-01-20 06:46:39 · answer #11 · answered by confused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋