he doesnt get lap dances and he doesnt cheat..he just goes to watch and he still comes home loving me more than anything and telling me im beautiful he just says he likes "boobs"..am i over reacting when i get upset and feel insecure?
2007-01-19 07:30:55 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a question that you can only answer for yourself. Some women are totally fine with their man going to that kind of entertainment and actually join sometimes, and some women feel strongely that a man, once in a serious relationship, doesn't need that kind of entertainment. Some women don't feel threatened in the least, while others feel extremely jealous. Also, you need to understand what kind of man you are with. Do you fully trust him? Do you honestly believe he would cheat on you? If he would cheat, he doesn't need to go to stripclubs to find a women. So, as I said, you need to make this decision on your own. I personally would not want my husband to go to a stripbar, but that is my own personal opinion. You should also discuss this with your boyfriend and how he would feel about you going to see strippers. Also if you do decide to let him go, maybe you should go and check it out. If you are ok with it, you should also say that once in a while is ok, but not to make it a habit. If a man spends more time at a stripbar, than with his woman, he has a problem. I wish you all the luck.
2007-01-19 07:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by minybrit72 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might not like my answers. They are blunt truth. First, if he's going to be in Quebec and he wants to get a lapdance, how are you possibly going toi stop him unless you also go with him? Second, going to the strip club on your 18th is a ritual among males. Third, your saying how you don't want him to even look at, much less touch another female is a sign of controlling.
2016-05-23 22:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married or thinking of marring then I would say it is wrong. He may not be physically cheating on you (or that is what is happening now) he is emotionally cheating on you.
How would he feel if you regularly went to a male strip club with a bunch of your gfs. Would he be insecure if you told him you went because you like "di*ks"?
2007-01-19 07:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating but i would feel insecure as well, i would just tell him, baby let me strip for u. And plus i go to strip clubs as well with my girls, and my bf doesn't say anything.
2007-01-19 07:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Loco 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well i would get very upset if it were my husband. my husband told me that if a man is with a woman and is happy he wouldn't be going to bars and strip clubs . most of the guys i know that go are looking. I'm sorry for you and i hope he stops are that he is being honest with you.
2007-01-19 07:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by foxie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he just looks and doesn't touch, then comes home and loves on you and you like the love. Then I wouldn't be upset.
I wouldn't mind if my bf went out with the guys.. Hey I might even ask if I could go?!
2007-01-19 07:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well.......in my opinion there are 2 kinds of relationships..
Boyfriend - girlfriend
Husband - wife
you have to ask yourself what would you prefer........that he goes now that is young and single.........or that he goes in the future after marrying you and having kids?I think that if it is something sporadic.......why dont allow him to go???
Each thing has its own time.
As someone said here...that are guy's stuffs.
But of course, all has a limit. If he needs go permanently to see that.......and to feel himself "motivated"....well.....he has something wrong. Normal guys like to see that kind of things, but just from time to time.......not always. Even.after a time they stop going by themselves.
2007-01-19 07:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably always feel insecure, but it is a guy thing. They like looking. You make him hide it then you will really run into problems.
2007-01-19 07:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he's not blowing your savings and you're not hell bent against it there really isn't much going on there......it's a few boobs being flashed around........you should go with him some time and see what it's like.....women who go with their boyfriends to strip clubs are the coolest women in the world......plus they usually like to watch their men get all hot and bothered......it helps when they get back home...........;)
2007-01-19 07:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by s_h_a_r_k_k_y 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how do you feel if he is looking at another woman naked,. then ask him how he would feel if other men looked at you.
Put those two answers together and you will get where you man is and understand whats going to happen
2007-01-19 07:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋